Hi,
I don't think you should say anything, but it should be their son/your husband who says something to them. It can be, "we don't wish to discuss this" or "we have decided not to have children".
If your husband is close to his mom, he can have a one-to-one with her at some point (in person/over the phone), and let her know that he realizes that she would like grandchildren, but you both have decided not to have children. It is not any of her business why/why not, but your husband can let her know now, so there are no "false hopes", assuming she is not the type of person to try to use manipulation or guilt or hold a grudge. If she is nice and reasonable, he can say, "Mom, I am letting you in on our future plans, out of respect for you, that we have both decided not to have children. I know you may be surprised by this, and I am willing to talk about it with you today, and then would appreciate the same respect by not discussing it further."
This gives her a chance to explain her concerns and feelings, for your husband to have a connection with his mom and be open/honest, and then he has set the boundaries with her that both of you will not be entertaining any future "baby talk".
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Hi,
I don't think you should say anything, but it should be their son/your husband who says something to them. It can be, "we don't wish to discuss this" or "we have decided not to have children".
If your husband is close to his mom, he can have a one-to-one with her at some point (in person/over the phone), and let her know that he realizes that she would like grandchildren, but you both have decided not to have children. It is not any of her business why/why not, but your husband can let her know now, so there are no "false hopes", assuming she is not the type of person to try to use manipulation or guilt or hold a grudge. If she is nice and reasonable, he can say, "Mom, I am letting you in on our future plans, out of respect for you, that we have both decided not to have children. I know you may be surprised by this, and I am willing to talk about it with you today, and then would appreciate the same respect by not discussing it further."
This gives her a chance to explain her concerns and feelings, for your husband to have a connection with his mom and be open/honest, and then he has set the boundaries with her that both of you will not be entertaining any future "baby talk".
How does this sound to you?
March 8, 2010 - 8:17pmThis Comment
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