Thanks for your post. I think the question isn't whether any of us would stay with a man whom we love but don't get sex from-- the question is whether you are happy and content to be with someone who shows little to no interest in having sex with you. All I know about your relationship is that your boyfriend looks at porn, talks to girls, and your sex life is pretty much non-existant. As an outsider reading into your life, it seems as though your boyfriend may be interested in everyone but you but like I said, I am sure there is more to your life and that's why you have reasons to love him.
Is there anything particular going on in his life right now that may be causing additional stress? When you say he talks to girls-- what exactly do you mean? Does he stay out with other girls while you are at home? Does he spend a lot of time on the phone with girls or a certain girl? Or is he simply friendly to women on the street? The reason why I ask is because lots of men are friendly and respectful to women, but if he is ignoring you at home while he is out with other women then there's the bigger picture. I hate to say that cheating may be a reason for the lack of sex-- but it is a possibility to consider.
Other possible reasons include: stress, his health, he may want you to be more adventurous or sexy, he is exhausted from work-- and the list goes on...
I hope this helps a bit, but understand that this is your relationship and no one else's. If you are happy, then stay. If you are not... consider other options.
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Eloise--
Thanks for your post. I think the question isn't whether any of us would stay with a man whom we love but don't get sex from-- the question is whether you are happy and content to be with someone who shows little to no interest in having sex with you. All I know about your relationship is that your boyfriend looks at porn, talks to girls, and your sex life is pretty much non-existant. As an outsider reading into your life, it seems as though your boyfriend may be interested in everyone but you but like I said, I am sure there is more to your life and that's why you have reasons to love him.
Is there anything particular going on in his life right now that may be causing additional stress? When you say he talks to girls-- what exactly do you mean? Does he stay out with other girls while you are at home? Does he spend a lot of time on the phone with girls or a certain girl? Or is he simply friendly to women on the street? The reason why I ask is because lots of men are friendly and respectful to women, but if he is ignoring you at home while he is out with other women then there's the bigger picture. I hate to say that cheating may be a reason for the lack of sex-- but it is a possibility to consider.
Other possible reasons include: stress, his health, he may want you to be more adventurous or sexy, he is exhausted from work-- and the list goes on...
I hope this helps a bit, but understand that this is your relationship and no one else's. If you are happy, then stay. If you are not... consider other options.
March 11, 2010 - 8:26amThis Comment
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