Hello, I come from the opposite camp. I was really never bothered one way or another about weight. I had that 5 -15 pounds, depending on the time of the month that I kept my eye on, but otherwise, ate relatively healthy meals tuned to my appetite.
Well, I married a man who had eating disorders, which he inherited from his dad and mother, who spent years taking amphetamines and hating their flesh.
People come in sizes. This is the news I would like to shout to the world. I always knew this, so that I never agonized over it. If one of my friends was eating in an unhealthy way, that would cause me pain, but never the size of her body.
Well, the other news is that eating disorders are infectious. So I developed one as I stayed married to my infected husband. He did not know how to eat without anxiety. There were so many feeling attatched to food that I became infected with! It took years for me to realize this.
The other fact beyond the infectious one is that we do not know how to have an intelligent conversation about food and weight and eating disorders. This conversation is building momentum, but it is not here yet, and those people who avoid morbid obesity and pernicious anorexia manage to do so through incredible personal resources, and are blazing trails that the next generations will take for granted, THANK GOD.
So, just so you know. I admire you.
Tracy
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Hello, I come from the opposite camp. I was really never bothered one way or another about weight. I had that 5 -15 pounds, depending on the time of the month that I kept my eye on, but otherwise, ate relatively healthy meals tuned to my appetite.
March 13, 2010 - 5:46pmWell, I married a man who had eating disorders, which he inherited from his dad and mother, who spent years taking amphetamines and hating their flesh.
People come in sizes. This is the news I would like to shout to the world. I always knew this, so that I never agonized over it. If one of my friends was eating in an unhealthy way, that would cause me pain, but never the size of her body.
Well, the other news is that eating disorders are infectious. So I developed one as I stayed married to my infected husband. He did not know how to eat without anxiety. There were so many feeling attatched to food that I became infected with! It took years for me to realize this.
The other fact beyond the infectious one is that we do not know how to have an intelligent conversation about food and weight and eating disorders. This conversation is building momentum, but it is not here yet, and those people who avoid morbid obesity and pernicious anorexia manage to do so through incredible personal resources, and are blazing trails that the next generations will take for granted, THANK GOD.
So, just so you know. I admire you.
Tracy
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