Thank you for your post. As much as you want to provide your children with a mother and father-- something you never had-- if your husband is a drunk, abusive person then unfortunately you are doing your children and yourself more harm than good. There is no reason for children to have to grow up in that environment and ultimately this is why lots of kids run away from home, are unhappy, and make other poor choices in life. Your kids will love their father no matter if you are living with him or not but children know when things are bad at home and the biggest mistake parent's make is thinking that by staying in a bad relationship they are doing what is best for their children.
Get out of that poisonous marriage, take some time for yourself and your kids, and then consider this new person in your life. What you don't want to do is get out of one relationship and introduce your children to your next in a matter of days or even weeks-- if you must continue to see this other man, make sure you do not introduce your children to him until you are sure that he could be the one you spend your life with. I am sorry that you are facing a tough decision but honestly feel like if your children are being raised in a home with no parental love, alcohol, and abuse then they are better off in a home with one parent, serenity, peace, and love.
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Kamo,
Thank you for your post. As much as you want to provide your children with a mother and father-- something you never had-- if your husband is a drunk, abusive person then unfortunately you are doing your children and yourself more harm than good. There is no reason for children to have to grow up in that environment and ultimately this is why lots of kids run away from home, are unhappy, and make other poor choices in life. Your kids will love their father no matter if you are living with him or not but children know when things are bad at home and the biggest mistake parent's make is thinking that by staying in a bad relationship they are doing what is best for their children.
Get out of that poisonous marriage, take some time for yourself and your kids, and then consider this new person in your life. What you don't want to do is get out of one relationship and introduce your children to your next in a matter of days or even weeks-- if you must continue to see this other man, make sure you do not introduce your children to him until you are sure that he could be the one you spend your life with. I am sorry that you are facing a tough decision but honestly feel like if your children are being raised in a home with no parental love, alcohol, and abuse then they are better off in a home with one parent, serenity, peace, and love.
Please keep us updated and good luck.
March 16, 2010 - 6:12amThis Comment
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