I know that there is no way of guaranteeing that counseling will FIX our problems. I guess what I want is for both of us to be sure before we make this decision to end our marriage. I want us to get to know the people we have become today not the people we were and not the memories of the things that were said and done to each other to get us to this point. And who knows at that point we both may decide that its not going to work.
As far as the phone and the other woman. He says that he has put the phone away and that she has stopped talking to him because of the drama and supposedly he stopped the talking before the blow up because he felt like we were about to make a decision on divorce and all that. That is all really confusing to me but whatever. I did see a goodbye text in the phone. I think she stopped talking to him because she was worried about me telling people at her work and all that and what was going to come out of that not necessarily the drama.
At this point I can only listen to what he is saying. I have no way of really knowing. His mother, the counselor and I have asked him to stop contact until we figure all this out and he said he would.
I totally agree with you that I want to learn from the past and move forward. I hope that is with him but if it is not I know that it will be something that I have to deal with and figure out how to move on.
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I know that there is no way of guaranteeing that counseling will FIX our problems. I guess what I want is for both of us to be sure before we make this decision to end our marriage. I want us to get to know the people we have become today not the people we were and not the memories of the things that were said and done to each other to get us to this point. And who knows at that point we both may decide that its not going to work.
As far as the phone and the other woman. He says that he has put the phone away and that she has stopped talking to him because of the drama and supposedly he stopped the talking before the blow up because he felt like we were about to make a decision on divorce and all that. That is all really confusing to me but whatever. I did see a goodbye text in the phone. I think she stopped talking to him because she was worried about me telling people at her work and all that and what was going to come out of that not necessarily the drama.
At this point I can only listen to what he is saying. I have no way of really knowing. His mother, the counselor and I have asked him to stop contact until we figure all this out and he said he would.
I totally agree with you that I want to learn from the past and move forward. I hope that is with him but if it is not I know that it will be something that I have to deal with and figure out how to move on.
March 31, 2010 - 11:03amThis Comment
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