It is unclear what bacteria or other infection you may have had, since no diagnostic test was performed. Please, next time...before accepting any medication, make sure that you have the proper diagnosis before taking a prescription for something you may/may not have.
Since it is not clear if you had this STD or not, there are a few options that your boyfriend has:
1. He can be tested for trichomoniasis, which is actually a good idea, since you two can continue spreading it back-and-forth if you have sex again. You can read more about it at the CDC website: Trichomoniasis (CDC). Another good reason for him to get tested: if he does NOT have it, and it is highly contagious, then you probably didn't have it, either, and just had another type of vaginal infection.
2. This is a good test of your relationship, assuming neither of you had any other sexual partners in the last 3 months. Men typically can be a carrier and not have symptoms, but women typically do have symptoms within 5-30 days of infection. (Any of his female partners hopefully would have told them if they had this before they broke up, assuming he did not have sex with you within 30 days of breaking up with them). If you both are unsure where the STD came from, you do not know if you had it, he does not get tested...then you two need to communicate and decide if there is enough of a foundation of trust to move past this. It really is his choice to be upset or not, but he has the power, control and choice to get all the facts and be tested himself.
I hope you also protect yourself, as if he is this upset and refusing to talk with you AND refusing to get tested...it puts enough doubt in my mind that he may not be telling you the entire truth. If you choose to have sex with him again, please use a condom until he has been tested (and, it's a good idea to continue using a condom to protect yourself from other STDs that he can be carrying and not know).
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It is unclear what bacteria or other infection you may have had, since no diagnostic test was performed. Please, next time...before accepting any medication, make sure that you have the proper diagnosis before taking a prescription for something you may/may not have.
Since it is not clear if you had this STD or not, there are a few options that your boyfriend has:
1. He can be tested for trichomoniasis, which is actually a good idea, since you two can continue spreading it back-and-forth if you have sex again. You can read more about it at the CDC website: Trichomoniasis (CDC). Another good reason for him to get tested: if he does NOT have it, and it is highly contagious, then you probably didn't have it, either, and just had another type of vaginal infection.
2. This is a good test of your relationship, assuming neither of you had any other sexual partners in the last 3 months. Men typically can be a carrier and not have symptoms, but women typically do have symptoms within 5-30 days of infection. (Any of his female partners hopefully would have told them if they had this before they broke up, assuming he did not have sex with you within 30 days of breaking up with them). If you both are unsure where the STD came from, you do not know if you had it, he does not get tested...then you two need to communicate and decide if there is enough of a foundation of trust to move past this. It really is his choice to be upset or not, but he has the power, control and choice to get all the facts and be tested himself.
I hope you also protect yourself, as if he is this upset and refusing to talk with you AND refusing to get tested...it puts enough doubt in my mind that he may not be telling you the entire truth. If you choose to have sex with him again, please use a condom until he has been tested (and, it's a good idea to continue using a condom to protect yourself from other STDs that he can be carrying and not know).
good luck! I'm glad you are feeling better!
March 21, 2010 - 7:27pmThis Comment
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