Hi Seltzy - You have nothing to be embarrassed about, there have to be many others in your exact same position, but they're not talking about it. You're been able to put into words what's bothering you and to reach out for support - that's a great step forward.
It sounds like you need to be able to talk with someone who can help you sort out your feelings and get a better understanding of your own sexuality - someone who will do so without judgment. You may want to consider making an appointment with a patient educator at a local Planned Parenthood center. They're highly trained in all aspects of sexuality, will be able to answer your questions, and will respect your privacy. There's nothing they haven't heard or seen before, and no reason to be embarrassed to seek their support.
Here's their website: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Here's a link to find find local services: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/index.htm
Another option would be to seek support from a professional counselor - a psychologist or other licensed counselor. It's not because there's something wrong with you, it's because a counselor can help you sort out why you're so afraid and get to the root of your fear and then past it.
If you're able to become more comfortable with the idea of vaginal contact you may then want to schedule an appointment with a gynecologist to determine if there is a physical problem that is causing your pain as well as a remedy.
You're a young woman with a great life ahead of you and I hope you'll seek and get the support you need and deserve. Please stay in touch and let us know how you're doing. We wish you the best. Pat
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Hi Seltzy - You have nothing to be embarrassed about, there have to be many others in your exact same position, but they're not talking about it. You're been able to put into words what's bothering you and to reach out for support - that's a great step forward.
It sounds like you need to be able to talk with someone who can help you sort out your feelings and get a better understanding of your own sexuality - someone who will do so without judgment. You may want to consider making an appointment with a patient educator at a local Planned Parenthood center. They're highly trained in all aspects of sexuality, will be able to answer your questions, and will respect your privacy. There's nothing they haven't heard or seen before, and no reason to be embarrassed to seek their support.
Here's their website: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Here's a link to find find local services: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/index.htm
Another option would be to seek support from a professional counselor - a psychologist or other licensed counselor. It's not because there's something wrong with you, it's because a counselor can help you sort out why you're so afraid and get to the root of your fear and then past it.
If you're able to become more comfortable with the idea of vaginal contact you may then want to schedule an appointment with a gynecologist to determine if there is a physical problem that is causing your pain as well as a remedy.
You're a young woman with a great life ahead of you and I hope you'll seek and get the support you need and deserve. Please stay in touch and let us know how you're doing. We wish you the best. Pat
April 3, 2010 - 7:21pmThis Comment
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