You should never, ever feel bad or that you "let someone down" because you aren't ready to be sexually active in your vaginal area. "No" means "no," and it doesn't matter why. If you invite a guy over late at night, though, you do have to be careful about the position you are putting yourself in. Not all guys would stop when you told them to stop.
Like Pat said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're just small down there, and still a virgin. Once you decide that you want to have sex with someone, you will know them well enough to be able to explain the fact that you need to go very slowly and carefully. You may need to use lubricant and you may have some pain the first time, but it should not last. And don't hesitate to try to use tampons -- you should be able to without hurting your virginity, and it might be a good way to get a little more familiar with just how sensitive you are around your vaginal area.
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Seltzy,
You should never, ever feel bad or that you "let someone down" because you aren't ready to be sexually active in your vaginal area. "No" means "no," and it doesn't matter why. If you invite a guy over late at night, though, you do have to be careful about the position you are putting yourself in. Not all guys would stop when you told them to stop.
Like Pat said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're just small down there, and still a virgin. Once you decide that you want to have sex with someone, you will know them well enough to be able to explain the fact that you need to go very slowly and carefully. You may need to use lubricant and you may have some pain the first time, but it should not last. And don't hesitate to try to use tampons -- you should be able to without hurting your virginity, and it might be a good way to get a little more familiar with just how sensitive you are around your vaginal area.
April 5, 2010 - 11:27amThis Comment
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