It's pretty normal for the frequency of sex to go down in a longterm relationship. The rush of dating has worn off, and all the other things about life enter into the situation -- work, friends, finances, stress. The television is on, the computer pulls us in. We could have sex tonight, but we're tired, and we could do it tomorrow just as well.....
Sound familiar at all? Some of it may be attributed to some of the above situations. Or, you might be right, he might be turned off by the discharge. Unfortunately, there's just no way to know that without him telling you.
My suggestion? You have to ask. But don't do it in bed, or in the evening when you're tired. Wait for a Saturday lunch or a Sunday afternoon. Sit in the sun at a little cafe, or find a booth in the back that's intimate. Enjoy each other's company. Talk about regular things. And then at one point, scoot a little closer, and just ask about it. Say you miss the way you used to have sex more often, and ask if anything's going on with him. See what he says, and go from there.
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Kelly,
It's pretty normal for the frequency of sex to go down in a longterm relationship. The rush of dating has worn off, and all the other things about life enter into the situation -- work, friends, finances, stress. The television is on, the computer pulls us in. We could have sex tonight, but we're tired, and we could do it tomorrow just as well.....
Sound familiar at all? Some of it may be attributed to some of the above situations. Or, you might be right, he might be turned off by the discharge. Unfortunately, there's just no way to know that without him telling you.
My suggestion? You have to ask. But don't do it in bed, or in the evening when you're tired. Wait for a Saturday lunch or a Sunday afternoon. Sit in the sun at a little cafe, or find a booth in the back that's intimate. Enjoy each other's company. Talk about regular things. And then at one point, scoot a little closer, and just ask about it. Say you miss the way you used to have sex more often, and ask if anything's going on with him. See what he says, and go from there.
April 12, 2010 - 10:33amThis Comment
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