Thank you for confirming what I think is our situation. I knew it was something like that, I just couldn't put it into positive words. I definitely feel better knowing I can be a little "selfish" aka care about me more and not feel like I'm neglecting him. Before reading your response, I really didn't like believing men are being attention seekers and needed to be ignored in order for them to feel the need to get your attention, persuation. But it makes sense how you explained it, I needed a positive viewpoint. Now I know I am actually helping him instead of feeling like I would be enabling him so thank you so much!