I understand what you ladies are going through but I'm having a very hard time with all of this. And I really don't know what to do because I feel this is really starting to effect me. This has been going on for the past year and doesn't seem to be improving. I am 28 years old and he is 30. We both have acknowledge the situation but not really sure we have resolved anything. We started off fine effectionate and sexually active. Know we are lacking in both and I feel it is effecting our relationshiop. I'm worried. He has always had a reason first that roomates were distracting but even though we got our own places the problems continued. Then it was because of being layed off, I'm tired, I don't need it everyday like you......the last comment hurt because I could settle for cuddling...I don't need it everyday and have never been that type of person. But I do enjoy sex and the connection you feel with your loved one. I know he loves me and he says he is attracted to me and wants to. I know he has always worried about satisfying me but I've told him I love making love to him and that he makes me happy. But it doesn't feel like he desires me especially when I'm trying everything in the book even asking him to make love to me which I did this past Saturday (but he was tired and his neck hurt) Its seems so easy for him to say no which I take as rejection and I know I shouldn't but it hurts when you desire someone and don't feel it in return. This creates problems because I'm an emotional person and don't hide them very well. I'm really hurt by this but the initial reaction is anger and agitation but I'm really hurt inside by all of this.
He has talked to his doctor and they say nothing is wrong with him. He told him of a all natural pill like cialis but he wont take it because we don't always have problems. But as long as I let him do it when he wants were fine which is scarce. He has to be in the mood and I have to cross my fingers that he is in the mood. He has gone to a pyschologist which resolved nothing because he didn't like her and he said he was going to find a therapist but has yet to do that. I suggested couples therapy but he didn't seem interested.
I'm worried about us because I don't know what else to do. After this past Saturday I've been cold to him because I don't know what else to do. I'm so sick of feeling rejected and unwanted. We are basically like roomates who sleep in the same bed and say I love you. I do love him and have always loved him with all my heart. But I'm sick of trying to talk about this because we keep repeating eachother and when I get hurt by his no to me he gets mad and we argue. Which does not help the bedroom situation. Basically I feel like he has all the say and power in the bedroom and I'm just there for the ride. I just don't understand how this happened.
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I understand what you ladies are going through but I'm having a very hard time with all of this. And I really don't know what to do because I feel this is really starting to effect me. This has been going on for the past year and doesn't seem to be improving. I am 28 years old and he is 30. We both have acknowledge the situation but not really sure we have resolved anything. We started off fine effectionate and sexually active. Know we are lacking in both and I feel it is effecting our relationshiop. I'm worried. He has always had a reason first that roomates were distracting but even though we got our own places the problems continued. Then it was because of being layed off, I'm tired, I don't need it everyday like you......the last comment hurt because I could settle for cuddling...I don't need it everyday and have never been that type of person. But I do enjoy sex and the connection you feel with your loved one. I know he loves me and he says he is attracted to me and wants to. I know he has always worried about satisfying me but I've told him I love making love to him and that he makes me happy. But it doesn't feel like he desires me especially when I'm trying everything in the book even asking him to make love to me which I did this past Saturday (but he was tired and his neck hurt) Its seems so easy for him to say no which I take as rejection and I know I shouldn't but it hurts when you desire someone and don't feel it in return. This creates problems because I'm an emotional person and don't hide them very well. I'm really hurt by this but the initial reaction is anger and agitation but I'm really hurt inside by all of this.
May 12, 2010 - 8:03amHe has talked to his doctor and they say nothing is wrong with him. He told him of a all natural pill like cialis but he wont take it because we don't always have problems. But as long as I let him do it when he wants were fine which is scarce. He has to be in the mood and I have to cross my fingers that he is in the mood. He has gone to a pyschologist which resolved nothing because he didn't like her and he said he was going to find a therapist but has yet to do that. I suggested couples therapy but he didn't seem interested.
I'm worried about us because I don't know what else to do. After this past Saturday I've been cold to him because I don't know what else to do. I'm so sick of feeling rejected and unwanted. We are basically like roomates who sleep in the same bed and say I love you. I do love him and have always loved him with all my heart. But I'm sick of trying to talk about this because we keep repeating eachother and when I get hurt by his no to me he gets mad and we argue. Which does not help the bedroom situation. Basically I feel like he has all the say and power in the bedroom and I'm just there for the ride. I just don't understand how this happened.
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