So where do you go from here? How important is this situation to you? I can tell that you do love him, and that this is really hurting you. But at this point it sounds like the decision-making lies with you. Do you stay? Do you leave?
The bedroom issue is important, for sure. But so often the bedroom situation reflects things going on in other parts of our lives. How is your relationship other than sex? Do you enjoy each other's company? Do you go out and do fun things together? Are you affectionate on the phone? How are the finances in the relationship? Since your boyfriend got laid off, he is surely feeling less than his best. Is he working to find a new job?
It's really hard when you feel like you're going around and around again on the same issues. You can't change him, only he can do that. You can change you, but that's really hard sometimes. So that's why I'm asking you. In your heart, what's next?
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Anon,
So where do you go from here? How important is this situation to you? I can tell that you do love him, and that this is really hurting you. But at this point it sounds like the decision-making lies with you. Do you stay? Do you leave?
The bedroom issue is important, for sure. But so often the bedroom situation reflects things going on in other parts of our lives. How is your relationship other than sex? Do you enjoy each other's company? Do you go out and do fun things together? Are you affectionate on the phone? How are the finances in the relationship? Since your boyfriend got laid off, he is surely feeling less than his best. Is he working to find a new job?
It's really hard when you feel like you're going around and around again on the same issues. You can't change him, only he can do that. You can change you, but that's really hard sometimes. So that's why I'm asking you. In your heart, what's next?
May 13, 2010 - 8:50amThis Comment
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