Veronica -why are you writing that here, in a thing about another problem?
maybe he doesn't love you so he doesn't want to mess you around by saying a hollow empty thing which people put around too much? Maybe he is beginning to love you but doesn't want to say it until he is certain he can live up to what he says, because he is a genuine person.maybe he was hurt once by love and realises the importance of the phrase.
If the six months have been fabulous and you feel closer to him each day, more and more of your lives beginning to entwine, you make each other laugh and can't wait to be with each other he may be beginning to feel like it is something he might say.
But if you whine and doubt and suffer, even if silently in your own head, tension will develop. Who says how long love takes to grow? my own partner used to, for the first 6/8 months, start singing songs and if the word love came into it or I love you, he'd leave it out, because he didn't want to give me any ammunition to fire back at him if things hadn't worked out between us. He didn't tell me he loved me. I kind of knew enough about how he was acting to see that he was behaving in a loving way, and kind of now respect him for not blurting out I love you like I probably did from about a month or two after I'd met him. now its one of our jokes, singing pop songs rand when we get to the word love we sing 'hmmm' you're once, twice, three times a lady and I hmmm you, etc...(like attracts like, we're both certifiable probably)
whilst the initial attraction and delight in finding someone who is brilliant to be with and who you fancy is irresistable, and feels like love, proper deep every day for the rest of ever love grows slowly. Six months is a very very very short time, but not when you're waiting for someone to say I love you. Then, you are exactly half as old as me so it probably seems like an eternity. I think you may just have a slow burner, and if you love him and want him to love you as much as you think you do then relax, enjoy and be pleased that when he says it, he'll really mean it.and won't that be nicer?
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Veronica -why are you writing that here, in a thing about another problem?
July 22, 2010 - 5:03ammaybe he doesn't love you so he doesn't want to mess you around by saying a hollow empty thing which people put around too much? Maybe he is beginning to love you but doesn't want to say it until he is certain he can live up to what he says, because he is a genuine person.maybe he was hurt once by love and realises the importance of the phrase.
If the six months have been fabulous and you feel closer to him each day, more and more of your lives beginning to entwine, you make each other laugh and can't wait to be with each other he may be beginning to feel like it is something he might say.
But if you whine and doubt and suffer, even if silently in your own head, tension will develop. Who says how long love takes to grow? my own partner used to, for the first 6/8 months, start singing songs and if the word love came into it or I love you, he'd leave it out, because he didn't want to give me any ammunition to fire back at him if things hadn't worked out between us. He didn't tell me he loved me. I kind of knew enough about how he was acting to see that he was behaving in a loving way, and kind of now respect him for not blurting out I love you like I probably did from about a month or two after I'd met him. now its one of our jokes, singing pop songs rand when we get to the word love we sing 'hmmm' you're once, twice, three times a lady and I hmmm you, etc...(like attracts like, we're both certifiable probably)
whilst the initial attraction and delight in finding someone who is brilliant to be with and who you fancy is irresistable, and feels like love, proper deep every day for the rest of ever love grows slowly. Six months is a very very very short time, but not when you're waiting for someone to say I love you. Then, you are exactly half as old as me so it probably seems like an eternity. I think you may just have a slow burner, and if you love him and want him to love you as much as you think you do then relax, enjoy and be pleased that when he says it, he'll really mean it.and won't that be nicer?
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