I'm so sorry about the two miscarriages. But I'm so happy you have a happy and healthy 3-year-old girl!
There is usually no way we can know exactly what was the cause of a miscarriage. But you shouldn't blame yourself. It was most likely nothing that you did or didn't do that caused them.
Does your husband also want to try for another child? Because Alison is right, this may not be the ideal time for you to conceive. A second child, while being loved and wanted, still brings a whole new level of pressure to the relationship. It would affect everything in the household, and if the household is already stressed, that might not be the best thing.
Since you don't want to leave your husband and you feel that he's a good man underneath the work stress, would counseling be an option? Might the two of you go for a few sessions with a therapist to try to smooth things out in the home?
Don't worry too much about your 3-year-old being lonely. I didn't have a sibling until I was 8 years old, and today my sister and I are very close. It's more important that you get the home life to go more easily right now. You want to be sure that second baby would be welcomed by both you and your husband into a loving and peaceful home.
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Hi, snq,
I'm so sorry about the two miscarriages. But I'm so happy you have a happy and healthy 3-year-old girl!
There is usually no way we can know exactly what was the cause of a miscarriage. But you shouldn't blame yourself. It was most likely nothing that you did or didn't do that caused them.
Does your husband also want to try for another child? Because Alison is right, this may not be the ideal time for you to conceive. A second child, while being loved and wanted, still brings a whole new level of pressure to the relationship. It would affect everything in the household, and if the household is already stressed, that might not be the best thing.
Since you don't want to leave your husband and you feel that he's a good man underneath the work stress, would counseling be an option? Might the two of you go for a few sessions with a therapist to try to smooth things out in the home?
Don't worry too much about your 3-year-old being lonely. I didn't have a sibling until I was 8 years old, and today my sister and I are very close. It's more important that you get the home life to go more easily right now. You want to be sure that second baby would be welcomed by both you and your husband into a loving and peaceful home.
Might counseling be an option?
May 10, 2010 - 8:46amThis Comment
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