It's wonderful that your daughter loves to play with other children. That means she's well-socialized even though she's an only child right now. LIke I said, I was an only child for 8 years. I know that I loved playing with other kids in the neighborhood and I hated when they went in their houses. Also, I begged my mom and dad for a sister! It just didn't happen until I was 8. And we're still fine.
I guess what Alison and I are both saying is that your home life needs some work. If your husband won't consider counseling, you could always go by yourself -- it might help you sort things out and figure out what YOU want your next steps to be.
As long as you are a loving, interested mom, your daughter is going to be fine. I am glad that your husband also wants another baby, but what if the second baby was also a girl?
Perhaps you could take six months or a year off from trying to conceive and take the pressure off both you and your husband. That might help you figure out how to smooth out the home life, or if it's even possible.
And I have to say this: To smooth out the home life, your husband has to help. This cannot be something you do on your own. If he is distant, angry, uncooperative or just plain uninterested, the marriage won't work. It's got to be the both of you.
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SNQ,
It's wonderful that your daughter loves to play with other children. That means she's well-socialized even though she's an only child right now. LIke I said, I was an only child for 8 years. I know that I loved playing with other kids in the neighborhood and I hated when they went in their houses. Also, I begged my mom and dad for a sister! It just didn't happen until I was 8. And we're still fine.
I guess what Alison and I are both saying is that your home life needs some work. If your husband won't consider counseling, you could always go by yourself -- it might help you sort things out and figure out what YOU want your next steps to be.
As long as you are a loving, interested mom, your daughter is going to be fine. I am glad that your husband also wants another baby, but what if the second baby was also a girl?
Perhaps you could take six months or a year off from trying to conceive and take the pressure off both you and your husband. That might help you figure out how to smooth out the home life, or if it's even possible.
And I have to say this: To smooth out the home life, your husband has to help. This cannot be something you do on your own. If he is distant, angry, uncooperative or just plain uninterested, the marriage won't work. It's got to be the both of you.
What do you think?
May 17, 2010 - 8:49amThis Comment
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