Hi CabbageSav - Let me play back what I heard you say. You've been involved with this guy for five years with no clear commitment on his part. You have been through a serious medical condition and he is not supporting your needs. You have two additional serious medical concerns. He has dropped a number of hints that may be building up to a way to end the relationship with very little notice. There are few comments in your statement about positive aspects of this relationship and what you're getting from it that's good for you. You say you want it to be good, indicating that it isn't, and you want to change him and have him stop his negative thoughts.
Oh boy.... It sounds like it's time for you to take a step back from the situation and try to look at it more objectively, especially in terms of what you actually want and need in your life. You can't change another person, the only one any of us can change is ourselves, and the first step in dealing with your current relationship is to better understand what you really want and why you are working so hard to "settle" for someone who you say is negative and not supporting you.
Hope that helps, and isn't too blunt, but when I see someone with serious health issues the last thing they need is to be compromised by a difficult and stressful relationship.
Take care, Pat
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Hi CabbageSav - Let me play back what I heard you say. You've been involved with this guy for five years with no clear commitment on his part. You have been through a serious medical condition and he is not supporting your needs. You have two additional serious medical concerns. He has dropped a number of hints that may be building up to a way to end the relationship with very little notice. There are few comments in your statement about positive aspects of this relationship and what you're getting from it that's good for you. You say you want it to be good, indicating that it isn't, and you want to change him and have him stop his negative thoughts.
Oh boy.... It sounds like it's time for you to take a step back from the situation and try to look at it more objectively, especially in terms of what you actually want and need in your life. You can't change another person, the only one any of us can change is ourselves, and the first step in dealing with your current relationship is to better understand what you really want and why you are working so hard to "settle" for someone who you say is negative and not supporting you.
Hope that helps, and isn't too blunt, but when I see someone with serious health issues the last thing they need is to be compromised by a difficult and stressful relationship.
May 10, 2010 - 6:04pmTake care, Pat
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