To the people who are with BPD people, this is the best advice: GO TO THERAPY!!!! As much as they need, you MUST!. I am tired of us talking just about them and all the mess they put in our lives. Yes, we could write books from all the shit they put us in. From my own experience with a BPD man, seeking out for help was the best I made. Yes, they do bad things, but the real questions to us as victims are : why do I let him treat my like that? why am i still here after all the cheating and shit? why its so hard for me to leave him? why do I still want to be with him after all the disgusting stuff he made? am i THAT afraid to be alone? ... Probably you have co-dependant issues or low self steem, which was my case. This made me a perfect target for BPD people. You can help them to an extent if you love them, but you have to love YOURSELF MORE!!!! THINK OF YOU!!!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!!... this is the best advice you will hear !!!! We come alone to this world, you have to be selfish on this one. let THEM look for their answers, you can support them but #1 priority is YOU. I left my relationship and I dont think I would have without therapy. I see people who are 12 years with these people, its not good for you , neither for them. They are testing the limits, how much harm they can do before you leave. I know my husband had a lot of pain and sadness for my leaving, but this way he will never do what he did to me to his next wife. And he understands my decision. he is still on therapy, getting better, me too. That is LOVE too. I love him, i want him to do well, i helped him all the way but hey!!! I love me too!!! i want to be happy too!!! And you should!!! get out of this drama!! and seek out help!!!
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To the people who are with BPD people, this is the best advice: GO TO THERAPY!!!! As much as they need, you MUST!. I am tired of us talking just about them and all the mess they put in our lives. Yes, we could write books from all the shit they put us in. From my own experience with a BPD man, seeking out for help was the best I made. Yes, they do bad things, but the real questions to us as victims are : why do I let him treat my like that? why am i still here after all the cheating and shit? why its so hard for me to leave him? why do I still want to be with him after all the disgusting stuff he made? am i THAT afraid to be alone? ... Probably you have co-dependant issues or low self steem, which was my case. This made me a perfect target for BPD people. You can help them to an extent if you love them, but you have to love YOURSELF MORE!!!! THINK OF YOU!!!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!!... this is the best advice you will hear !!!! We come alone to this world, you have to be selfish on this one. let THEM look for their answers, you can support them but #1 priority is YOU. I left my relationship and I dont think I would have without therapy. I see people who are 12 years with these people, its not good for you , neither for them. They are testing the limits, how much harm they can do before you leave. I know my husband had a lot of pain and sadness for my leaving, but this way he will never do what he did to me to his next wife. And he understands my decision. he is still on therapy, getting better, me too. That is LOVE too. I love him, i want him to do well, i helped him all the way but hey!!! I love me too!!! i want to be happy too!!! And you should!!! get out of this drama!! and seek out help!!!
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