First, I'd like you to know that this is not uncommon, and it will most likely get better. It may be that you are having intercourse before your body is quite ready for it. Lubrication is very important, and you may need more foreplay before the act itself to give your body time to lubricate and be ready. Even though you are 24, I have a few links for you that are geared toward teens. This is only because so many teens have sex now, this information tends to be geared toward them.
This site is kind of cool, honest and down to earth: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/first_intercourse_101. Planned Parenthood has great information as well: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/sexuality-4323.htm, and we have scads of information on sexual well being: https://www.empowher.com/condition/sexual-well-being. You may also be experiencing a little vaginismus because of anxiety: https://www.empowher.com/media/reference/vaginismus.
I would hope your boyfriend would not leave you over a little bump in the road such as this, because it is totally normal. Hopefully there is more to your relationship than the act of intercourse. It does definitely get easier as you both get a little more relaxed and used to each other. Sex is kind of tricky sometimes, and it is hard because as a society we don't really get taught enough about it.
It would be a good idea to have a pelvic exam if you have never had one before. At that time you could get further information on sex topics, avoiding STDs and birth control if you need it. You can be honest with your health care provider about sex. That is part of the job and we are in health care to help you, so we will not judge you based on your activity or questions.
Try to relax and enjoy yourself. I promise you it will get easier, and dare I say it? Fun.
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Hi Tizu
First, I'd like you to know that this is not uncommon, and it will most likely get better. It may be that you are having intercourse before your body is quite ready for it. Lubrication is very important, and you may need more foreplay before the act itself to give your body time to lubricate and be ready. Even though you are 24, I have a few links for you that are geared toward teens. This is only because so many teens have sex now, this information tends to be geared toward them.
This site is kind of cool, honest and down to earth: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/first_intercourse_101. Planned Parenthood has great information as well: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/sexuality-4323.htm, and we have scads of information on sexual well being: https://www.empowher.com/condition/sexual-well-being. You may also be experiencing a little vaginismus because of anxiety: https://www.empowher.com/media/reference/vaginismus.
I would hope your boyfriend would not leave you over a little bump in the road such as this, because it is totally normal. Hopefully there is more to your relationship than the act of intercourse. It does definitely get easier as you both get a little more relaxed and used to each other. Sex is kind of tricky sometimes, and it is hard because as a society we don't really get taught enough about it.
It would be a good idea to have a pelvic exam if you have never had one before. At that time you could get further information on sex topics, avoiding STDs and birth control if you need it. You can be honest with your health care provider about sex. That is part of the job and we are in health care to help you, so we will not judge you based on your activity or questions.
Try to relax and enjoy yourself. I promise you it will get easier, and dare I say it? Fun.
Thank you for writing and good luck to you.
May 21, 2010 - 10:41amThis Comment
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