Congrats on the relationship! It sounds like it must be going fairly well if you are able to discuss sex, as so many people struggle with that. I hope you get a lot of responses to this question, because I think it could be very interesting to see what the community has to say.
This may sound like a cop-out, but I think everyone has sex a little differently. You may have to ask him just exactly what he is talking about, or what he wants you to try to do. Maybe he has a video that demonstrates it? Sometimes seeing what kind of adult movies a person enjoys can give you insight into what he is fantasizing about. If he watches those movies.
Most people just do what they feel when it comes to sex, as it sounds like you do, and then their partners' feedback may cause them to change things up a bit. So I really do think the answer is to go back to him and ask what he wants. He may enjoy being asked as well!
Dr. Laura Berman is a famous women's health and sexuality doctor. Perhaps her site can help you as well: http://www.drlauraberman.com/public/index.aspx. We have a section on sex and relationships that may help you: https://www.empowher.com/relationships-family/sex-relationships
I really hope we get some comments here to see how other women deal with this. Thank you for writing and HAVE FUN!
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Hello Suzie
Congrats on the relationship! It sounds like it must be going fairly well if you are able to discuss sex, as so many people struggle with that. I hope you get a lot of responses to this question, because I think it could be very interesting to see what the community has to say.
This may sound like a cop-out, but I think everyone has sex a little differently. You may have to ask him just exactly what he is talking about, or what he wants you to try to do. Maybe he has a video that demonstrates it? Sometimes seeing what kind of adult movies a person enjoys can give you insight into what he is fantasizing about. If he watches those movies.
Most people just do what they feel when it comes to sex, as it sounds like you do, and then their partners' feedback may cause them to change things up a bit. So I really do think the answer is to go back to him and ask what he wants. He may enjoy being asked as well!
Dr. Laura Berman is a famous women's health and sexuality doctor. Perhaps her site can help you as well: http://www.drlauraberman.com/public/index.aspx. We have a section on sex and relationships that may help you: https://www.empowher.com/relationships-family/sex-relationships
I really hope we get some comments here to see how other women deal with this. Thank you for writing and HAVE FUN!
May 27, 2010 - 6:55amThis Comment
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