It sounds like you are a wonderful, strong and courageous woman, and those traits coupled with more time in the relationship will most likely lead to you feeling able to be more vulnerable with him (both in the bedroom and in other areas of the relationship).
Perhaps you can let him know that you would also be interested in "moving more" during sex; to be more "dominant" and "vulnerable", but in order to feel capable of doing these things, you need... (fill in the blank with your own words, but a few suggestions: ...more time in the relationship to build up to these precious emotions and behaviors, you need to feel special and sexy in bed and not be reminded of what other women have done with him sexually since you both have "pasts", and you need his patience and encouragement without pressure or expectations).
I'm sure it is not his intent, either, to make you feel a little "rubbed the wrong way", as it is difficult to talk about sex without bringing up past relationships. Bravo to him and you for talking about it, and hopefully you can let him know you "hear" him, appreciate that you can both communicate your deep, secret desires with each other, and then allow each other to choose to improve on those areas (or not) in your own timeframe without dwelling on them.
Best wishes, have fun and I do look forward to other women's responses as well!
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It sounds like you are a wonderful, strong and courageous woman, and those traits coupled with more time in the relationship will most likely lead to you feeling able to be more vulnerable with him (both in the bedroom and in other areas of the relationship).
Perhaps you can let him know that you would also be interested in "moving more" during sex; to be more "dominant" and "vulnerable", but in order to feel capable of doing these things, you need... (fill in the blank with your own words, but a few suggestions: ...more time in the relationship to build up to these precious emotions and behaviors, you need to feel special and sexy in bed and not be reminded of what other women have done with him sexually since you both have "pasts", and you need his patience and encouragement without pressure or expectations).
I'm sure it is not his intent, either, to make you feel a little "rubbed the wrong way", as it is difficult to talk about sex without bringing up past relationships. Bravo to him and you for talking about it, and hopefully you can let him know you "hear" him, appreciate that you can both communicate your deep, secret desires with each other, and then allow each other to choose to improve on those areas (or not) in your own timeframe without dwelling on them.
Best wishes, have fun and I do look forward to other women's responses as well!
May 27, 2010 - 7:28pmThis Comment
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