I need some advice please. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2years. I am 28 and my BF is 26. I had noticed him a little distant and he has been going out alot more, with his single friend who has just returned from travelling the world. Alot of our friends have got engaged and are getting married and during the week, I called him to say we needed to talk about our relationship. He came to my house straight away and we talked. He said he loves me no matter what i think, but he lately felt he was missing out on single life, when out with his single friend. (just that one friend in particular) we had a good talk and he said he would distant himself from that friend. He also said he felt under pressure to get married and that i was way to good for him. I let him no that i dont want to get married yet myself! which I dont, and if there was ever talk of the future it was always him bringing it up. After the chat he said he felt much better and his head was clearer. I also said to him if he wanted to be single he could go, cause i wasnt going to be in a r/ship with someone who didnt want to be in it, but i was prepared to fight for him this time as I do no him. He also recently met with his birth Mum and I know he has a lot of things going on in his head. He said he just felt really unsettled. Since the Talk he has seemed to come back to me! I have asked him a couple of times how he feels now and he says fine, i know i have to stop asking him. I am also a very jealous person and due to a previous r/ship i have real trust issues so since this talk i feel really insecure even more than i have had and very unsettled. What if he realises in a couple of months again he doesnt want to be in a relationship. Is this normal in relationships to have a wee wobble or to have those feelings? Oh i just feel terrible and slightly depressed! Help plz
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I need some advice please. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2years. I am 28 and my BF is 26. I had noticed him a little distant and he has been going out alot more, with his single friend who has just returned from travelling the world. Alot of our friends have got engaged and are getting married and during the week, I called him to say we needed to talk about our relationship. He came to my house straight away and we talked. He said he loves me no matter what i think, but he lately felt he was missing out on single life, when out with his single friend. (just that one friend in particular) we had a good talk and he said he would distant himself from that friend. He also said he felt under pressure to get married and that i was way to good for him. I let him no that i dont want to get married yet myself! which I dont, and if there was ever talk of the future it was always him bringing it up. After the chat he said he felt much better and his head was clearer. I also said to him if he wanted to be single he could go, cause i wasnt going to be in a r/ship with someone who didnt want to be in it, but i was prepared to fight for him this time as I do no him. He also recently met with his birth Mum and I know he has a lot of things going on in his head. He said he just felt really unsettled. Since the Talk he has seemed to come back to me! I have asked him a couple of times how he feels now and he says fine, i know i have to stop asking him. I am also a very jealous person and due to a previous r/ship i have real trust issues so since this talk i feel really insecure even more than i have had and very unsettled. What if he realises in a couple of months again he doesnt want to be in a relationship. Is this normal in relationships to have a wee wobble or to have those feelings? Oh i just feel terrible and slightly depressed! Help plz
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