I need some help here too. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years. We had great time in the first two years at school. After that, we both work, and we just like every couple had some fights, arugments, and disagreements, but we never had time off during 6 years. Something was turned very bad this year when I asked him how he felt about me and our relationship and marriage. First, he said he still loves me and will consider marriage. Then, each time we met he act differently and said things worse and worse. Finally, he told me that we had no sparks and passions in this relationship. I was so sad and mad, I was blaming and angry. I did not know that actually killed last attractions he had to me. We decided to take temporate time off, so I went back home for 3 and half months. We have not met since last June about half year and talked four times during the time. Finally, we met becasue he tried to help me to fix my computer. He told me that my computer was so slower and not worth to fix. So, he bought new computer for me and set everything up. He told me that we are family and I am his BF. He does not want lose me, but he needs to experience life without me in order to moving the relationship forward (marriage or something). He still wants to talk to me because I am the only one person can understand him. He likes companionship with me. Basically, He wants to keep me as family member. He also told me that he did not date anyone during our time apart. He thinks it is better to tell me before he is dating someone. He told me he still cares about me a lot amd thinks about we can go Las Vegas, Haiwaii, and Shanghai together. I asked him if he was over me or not. He said he did not know. This time has no crying, blaming, and judging. I let him go for good, but I still have feelings for him.
Just want to know by your experience is that possible he comes back to me or still has feelings for me? Do you guys have some thoughts and advice on it ? Any comfort will be appreciated.
Thanks!
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I need some help here too. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years. We had great time in the first two years at school. After that, we both work, and we just like every couple had some fights, arugments, and disagreements, but we never had time off during 6 years. Something was turned very bad this year when I asked him how he felt about me and our relationship and marriage. First, he said he still loves me and will consider marriage. Then, each time we met he act differently and said things worse and worse. Finally, he told me that we had no sparks and passions in this relationship. I was so sad and mad, I was blaming and angry. I did not know that actually killed last attractions he had to me. We decided to take temporate time off, so I went back home for 3 and half months. We have not met since last June about half year and talked four times during the time. Finally, we met becasue he tried to help me to fix my computer. He told me that my computer was so slower and not worth to fix. So, he bought new computer for me and set everything up. He told me that we are family and I am his BF. He does not want lose me, but he needs to experience life without me in order to moving the relationship forward (marriage or something). He still wants to talk to me because I am the only one person can understand him. He likes companionship with me. Basically, He wants to keep me as family member. He also told me that he did not date anyone during our time apart. He thinks it is better to tell me before he is dating someone. He told me he still cares about me a lot amd thinks about we can go Las Vegas, Haiwaii, and Shanghai together. I asked him if he was over me or not. He said he did not know. This time has no crying, blaming, and judging. I let him go for good, but I still have feelings for him.
December 11, 2010 - 11:08amJust want to know by your experience is that possible he comes back to me or still has feelings for me? Do you guys have some thoughts and advice on it ? Any comfort will be appreciated.
Thanks!
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