I do have a few questions for you, as I am confused somewhat about what you left out of your post. Let's take the "sex" off the table for the moment, and talk about your relationship.
1. In what context did your boyfriend tell you that your weight is an issue for him? What was your response? Does he understand how badly and deeply this comment hurt you?
2. Have you two talked about what your ideal relationship is, in regards to being physically intimate (in other ways other than intercourse, but it also includes intercourse)? How does he like to show his affection physically? How do you?
3. Regarding sex/intercourse: What is his opinion on his sexual relationship with you? Does he want to have sex more often in his intimate relationships, with you? If so, what is holding him back from making this a realty? What does he need from you?
These are just a few questions, as after reading your post, it seems as though you are speculating about many aspects of the relationship, what his thoughts/feelings are about you, and the person you need to get the answers from are him. If he is not able or willing to talk with you about his feelings...this may be enough information for you to realize that you may not choose to date someone who can not be forthcoming, open and honest about their feelings, no matter how difficult it is to discuss them. It takes time to build trust in the relationship, and maybe taking a step back to build a stronger foundation would be helpful?
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I'm sorry you are going through this!
I do have a few questions for you, as I am confused somewhat about what you left out of your post. Let's take the "sex" off the table for the moment, and talk about your relationship.
1. In what context did your boyfriend tell you that your weight is an issue for him? What was your response? Does he understand how badly and deeply this comment hurt you?
2. Have you two talked about what your ideal relationship is, in regards to being physically intimate (in other ways other than intercourse, but it also includes intercourse)? How does he like to show his affection physically? How do you?
3. Regarding sex/intercourse: What is his opinion on his sexual relationship with you? Does he want to have sex more often in his intimate relationships, with you? If so, what is holding him back from making this a realty? What does he need from you?
These are just a few questions, as after reading your post, it seems as though you are speculating about many aspects of the relationship, what his thoughts/feelings are about you, and the person you need to get the answers from are him. If he is not able or willing to talk with you about his feelings...this may be enough information for you to realize that you may not choose to date someone who can not be forthcoming, open and honest about their feelings, no matter how difficult it is to discuss them. It takes time to build trust in the relationship, and maybe taking a step back to build a stronger foundation would be helpful?
June 1, 2010 - 8:19pmThis Comment
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