Thanks Diane. Well first off my husband and I have said from the beginning we wanted me to stay home and raise our kids. Let me give you an example of what really get's under my skin. The other night my husband came home, I had already given the girls dinner, a bath, and got them in their pj's. I go to sit down next to him for a break when they call me "mommy, can you come here"? If I say no I just sat down they will nag and nag. Look to my husband and he doesn't move. So I go, annoyed, and come back to see that the toys and blocks are still sitting on the floor. I start to pick it up, than I get " mommy". I go and come back again and the blocks are STILL on the floor. Than they call me again and I have to look at my husband and say do you think you can get this one! I don't mind doing the cooking and cleaning, etc. while he is at work but I think when he comes home he needs to help with our kids, after all he did help in creating them. When he is off he doesn't want to do anything. He watches sports center, national geographic (not so bad), or CNN. I am home all the time, I don't want to sit in front of the tv and I am sick of our kids watching tv. So I say let's take them in the pool (we live in Florida), or try to think of something inexpensive we can do but it feels like I am pulling teeth. I'm not saying I am interacting all day every day with them as far as painting, or the pool but I try. I think I forgot to mention their sleeping habits. They don't take naps unless they are in the car and they don't sleep through the night. I get a zero break, which is why I am now finding myself cringing when they call for me. Sometimes I feel like a lazy or bad mom for feeling this way. I can't even go to the bathroom without one of them following me or calling me. My 4 year old goes to school 3 days a week but that doesn't give me much of abreak. Than I look around the house and it's a disaster all over again and I am tired of cleaning up after everyone. What also frustrates me is when I tell my mom I need a break and she doesn't say well let me take them for the day and you go do something. I mean she lives 10 minutes away! Here's the clincher. My birthday is on Tuesday which means we'll probably do something on Sunday. No one put forth any effort to plan anything until last night and it ended up being me and my sister doing the planning. I shouldn't have to plan my own day and I shouldn't have to have it planned around everyone else's schedule. And of course my last night when I told hubby what we decided he didn't like the plan and I lost it. I just told him I shouldn't be planning anything and they are all jerks for waiting until the last minute. I don't know. I know this is long, it just feels good to vent.
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Thanks Diane. Well first off my husband and I have said from the beginning we wanted me to stay home and raise our kids. Let me give you an example of what really get's under my skin. The other night my husband came home, I had already given the girls dinner, a bath, and got them in their pj's. I go to sit down next to him for a break when they call me "mommy, can you come here"? If I say no I just sat down they will nag and nag. Look to my husband and he doesn't move. So I go, annoyed, and come back to see that the toys and blocks are still sitting on the floor. I start to pick it up, than I get " mommy". I go and come back again and the blocks are STILL on the floor. Than they call me again and I have to look at my husband and say do you think you can get this one! I don't mind doing the cooking and cleaning, etc. while he is at work but I think when he comes home he needs to help with our kids, after all he did help in creating them. When he is off he doesn't want to do anything. He watches sports center, national geographic (not so bad), or CNN. I am home all the time, I don't want to sit in front of the tv and I am sick of our kids watching tv. So I say let's take them in the pool (we live in Florida), or try to think of something inexpensive we can do but it feels like I am pulling teeth. I'm not saying I am interacting all day every day with them as far as painting, or the pool but I try. I think I forgot to mention their sleeping habits. They don't take naps unless they are in the car and they don't sleep through the night. I get a zero break, which is why I am now finding myself cringing when they call for me. Sometimes I feel like a lazy or bad mom for feeling this way. I can't even go to the bathroom without one of them following me or calling me. My 4 year old goes to school 3 days a week but that doesn't give me much of abreak. Than I look around the house and it's a disaster all over again and I am tired of cleaning up after everyone. What also frustrates me is when I tell my mom I need a break and she doesn't say well let me take them for the day and you go do something. I mean she lives 10 minutes away! Here's the clincher. My birthday is on Tuesday which means we'll probably do something on Sunday. No one put forth any effort to plan anything until last night and it ended up being me and my sister doing the planning. I shouldn't have to plan my own day and I shouldn't have to have it planned around everyone else's schedule. And of course my last night when I told hubby what we decided he didn't like the plan and I lost it. I just told him I shouldn't be planning anything and they are all jerks for waiting until the last minute. I don't know. I know this is long, it just feels good to vent.
June 4, 2010 - 11:31amThis Comment
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