If you have not already, leave him. He is intentionally pushing you to make you back down on the issue. That is not healthy for you, or for a relationship, for someone to be constantly challenging for top dog position. I'd say he has emotional issues relating to women that have not been properly addressed and that he should see a psychologist about it. The masturbating in bed with you next to him is again, him trying to show you he is the boss and that he is sexually frustrated. It's another power play, and quite frankly is disrespectful!
I know this because I am male and stumbled on this looking for something completely different but felt compelled to comment.
Now, regarding the viewing of pornography and saving pictures. In the mind of a male this is not a disrespectiful action. Males gain the great majority of sexual stimulation from visual, touch and auditory senses. I have had to show my fiance actual academic proof before she would believe me about that, and it is a fundemental difference between the sexes. We have been together for two years.
I pose this question to all of the commentors, how many of you have read the 50 Shades series? In many mens minds, that represents the same difficult situation that porn does for women.
There is a mindset here that can be changed regarding pornography for both sexes, and that is that it does not represent a lack of interest in your partner, rather that it is a tool we use to excite ourselves. Our brains are addicted to the feeling of being excited sexually, and that is something that developed to ensure we reproduce.
Just a comment for everyones reference. If you see your partner looking at pornography, don't lose it and stomp off. Get involved and draw him away from it. If getting physical won't draw him away from the porn then there really is a problem that needs to be addressed. And if there is a reason that you don't want to get involved, again that may be a problem that needs to be addressed.
I sincerely hope that you are able to find peace with this issue Karma. He sounds like a POS, but I'm judging a person here based on too little.
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Karma,
If you have not already, leave him. He is intentionally pushing you to make you back down on the issue. That is not healthy for you, or for a relationship, for someone to be constantly challenging for top dog position. I'd say he has emotional issues relating to women that have not been properly addressed and that he should see a psychologist about it. The masturbating in bed with you next to him is again, him trying to show you he is the boss and that he is sexually frustrated. It's another power play, and quite frankly is disrespectful!
I know this because I am male and stumbled on this looking for something completely different but felt compelled to comment.
Now, regarding the viewing of pornography and saving pictures. In the mind of a male this is not a disrespectiful action. Males gain the great majority of sexual stimulation from visual, touch and auditory senses. I have had to show my fiance actual academic proof before she would believe me about that, and it is a fundemental difference between the sexes. We have been together for two years.
I pose this question to all of the commentors, how many of you have read the 50 Shades series? In many mens minds, that represents the same difficult situation that porn does for women.
There is a mindset here that can be changed regarding pornography for both sexes, and that is that it does not represent a lack of interest in your partner, rather that it is a tool we use to excite ourselves. Our brains are addicted to the feeling of being excited sexually, and that is something that developed to ensure we reproduce.
Just a comment for everyones reference. If you see your partner looking at pornography, don't lose it and stomp off. Get involved and draw him away from it. If getting physical won't draw him away from the porn then there really is a problem that needs to be addressed. And if there is a reason that you don't want to get involved, again that may be a problem that needs to be addressed.
I sincerely hope that you are able to find peace with this issue Karma. He sounds like a POS, but I'm judging a person here based on too little.
September 12, 2012 - 11:42pmThis Comment
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