Hi again!
Here is a laundry list of organizations in the State of Arizona that you may find helpful. There are descriptions under each one which will help you recognize which ones have legal help also. I know that there was a non-profit agency that offered assistance to me legally while I was going through my battle with a protection order. Just remember, there are assistance programs so call, they will be very helpful.
http://www.azvictims.org/domestic/services.asp
Here is free legal advice also http://www.usattorneylegalservices.com/free-legal-aid-Arizona.html.
Here is another link http://www.dmoz.org/Society/People/Women/Issues/Violence_and_Abuse/Domestic_Violence/Shelters/United_States/.
This all brought back many memories and I wanted to make sure I shared everything with you today.
First, make sure you change all your locks in the house. As I previously mentioned, get those pre-paid cell phones and place them in different areas of the house (just in case). Call the above resources and also let your neighbors know what is going on so you can form your own block watch. Now, you may not be open about this but this is certainly in your best interest. My neighbors ended up being a legal aid in my defense as they watched for a large white van and knew him well. I also purchased a gun but you may not want to go that far with kids in the home. I live alone with my dog which obviously knows him and would just wag her tail.
I would get the divorce done as quickly and painless as possible to be DONE with everything. There is no need to let this linger so get the aid you need.
As for the time progression of feeling safe....you will in time. It takes time and you will find yourself always looking over your shoulder. My ex happens to live less than one mile from me. I hardly ever see him and when I do, I just turn my cheek and look in another direction. Sometimes I still feel like I want to move away from here but I bought a house and feel a little stuck. In time, I will though.
I would say that if you have insurance, seek mental assistance also. This situation is very hard on a woman and yes, your brick wall is built up so high right now that you will not let anyone get close to you. This is not fair to you or to the person you let walk away because you are afraid. You got hitched in 6 months, who cares....you learned a lesson from it and will be sure not to let your emotions get the best of you next time. I spent 8 years with my ex and wanted out after year 2. You should be commended for making the best decision you will ever make.
Preparation is key. Make sure you are prepared in every legal proceeding that is coming up. The day before, get your hair and nails done. Does this sound idiotic? Maybe, but it relaxed me and we always feel refreshed after a great haircut, fresh polish and maybe even a new outfit. The best way you will fight back is feeling 100% about you. You are prepared if he tries to contact you (because we already completed step 1), we look great and are prepared for the legal battle (because we made phone calls and got the legal assistance, Step 2), and we will learn to say that this situation was rough but we got through it (because we took care of our emotional state by seeking help).
Your not alone. Many of us live our lives everyday wishing we were strong enough to get out of situations that are unsafe. Some get out and some stay due to fear. You are strong as you have already stood up and said 'ENOUGH'. Prepare for what is to come, write to me or us at EmpowHer to get you the resources and shoulder to cry on to get you through this and most of all, take care of you!
Please keep us updated! You will also help so many more women!
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Hi again!
Here is a laundry list of organizations in the State of Arizona that you may find helpful. There are descriptions under each one which will help you recognize which ones have legal help also. I know that there was a non-profit agency that offered assistance to me legally while I was going through my battle with a protection order. Just remember, there are assistance programs so call, they will be very helpful.
http://www.azvictims.org/domestic/services.asp
Here is free legal advice also http://www.usattorneylegalservices.com/free-legal-aid-Arizona.html.
Here is another link http://www.dmoz.org/Society/People/Women/Issues/Violence_and_Abuse/Domestic_Violence/Shelters/United_States/.
This all brought back many memories and I wanted to make sure I shared everything with you today.
First, make sure you change all your locks in the house. As I previously mentioned, get those pre-paid cell phones and place them in different areas of the house (just in case). Call the above resources and also let your neighbors know what is going on so you can form your own block watch. Now, you may not be open about this but this is certainly in your best interest. My neighbors ended up being a legal aid in my defense as they watched for a large white van and knew him well. I also purchased a gun but you may not want to go that far with kids in the home. I live alone with my dog which obviously knows him and would just wag her tail.
I would get the divorce done as quickly and painless as possible to be DONE with everything. There is no need to let this linger so get the aid you need.
As for the time progression of feeling safe....you will in time. It takes time and you will find yourself always looking over your shoulder. My ex happens to live less than one mile from me. I hardly ever see him and when I do, I just turn my cheek and look in another direction. Sometimes I still feel like I want to move away from here but I bought a house and feel a little stuck. In time, I will though.
I would say that if you have insurance, seek mental assistance also. This situation is very hard on a woman and yes, your brick wall is built up so high right now that you will not let anyone get close to you. This is not fair to you or to the person you let walk away because you are afraid. You got hitched in 6 months, who cares....you learned a lesson from it and will be sure not to let your emotions get the best of you next time. I spent 8 years with my ex and wanted out after year 2. You should be commended for making the best decision you will ever make.
Preparation is key. Make sure you are prepared in every legal proceeding that is coming up. The day before, get your hair and nails done. Does this sound idiotic? Maybe, but it relaxed me and we always feel refreshed after a great haircut, fresh polish and maybe even a new outfit. The best way you will fight back is feeling 100% about you. You are prepared if he tries to contact you (because we already completed step 1), we look great and are prepared for the legal battle (because we made phone calls and got the legal assistance, Step 2), and we will learn to say that this situation was rough but we got through it (because we took care of our emotional state by seeking help).
Your not alone. Many of us live our lives everyday wishing we were strong enough to get out of situations that are unsafe. Some get out and some stay due to fear. You are strong as you have already stood up and said 'ENOUGH'. Prepare for what is to come, write to me or us at EmpowHer to get you the resources and shoulder to cry on to get you through this and most of all, take care of you!
Please keep us updated! You will also help so many more women!
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