Pardon me but your ignorance and hostility is showing.
I think that this rightly belongs on a "woman's site", as much it belongs on a "man's site." The fact is that both mothers and fathers can be alienators. This is not an assault on mothers. For you not to see that this could indeed happen illustrates a sort of ridged/black and white thinking that I would say is a huge red flag.
Is a parent who alienates mentally ill? Could be. There are many cluster B personality disorders that would by their very nature support alienating type behaviors. It's coupled with a disordered parent's black and white thinking and inability to see their child's needs, want and desires as being different form their own. For these disordered parents there is no middle ground, you are either with them or against them. These parents love is very conditional and often forces a child to choose between the parents. The children, not having the capacity to fully understand their decision often choose the abusive/alienating parent. These kids will lie to please the abusive/alienating parent.
Some alienation tactics are mild and perpetrated out of ignorance and don't result in parental alienation syndrome. Some alienation tactics are very severe and effective in undermining the affections between the child and targeted parent. Not every child who endures alienation tactics is fully alienated from the target parent.
It's probably shocking to learn that there are parents, both mothers and fathers who purposely manipulating a child's reality. They lie, manipulate and revise history to gain control over their child(ren)'s affections. They are systematic in their approach, just like cults.
I would ask you if you believe that cults exist? Are the members brainwashed? Do former members require deprogramming to reenter society at large? Is a former cult member mentally stable when they leave or are forced out?
Parents who use parental alienation tactics are, in a sense, forming their own cult.
I am sure that you will not be swayed by what I wrote here. In any event, from one mother to another (I am making an assumption here), parental alienation is not a father issue nor a mother issue, it is a children's issue. There has to be some way to protect this kids from this.
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Pardon me but your ignorance and hostility is showing.
I think that this rightly belongs on a "woman's site", as much it belongs on a "man's site." The fact is that both mothers and fathers can be alienators. This is not an assault on mothers. For you not to see that this could indeed happen illustrates a sort of ridged/black and white thinking that I would say is a huge red flag.
Is a parent who alienates mentally ill? Could be. There are many cluster B personality disorders that would by their very nature support alienating type behaviors. It's coupled with a disordered parent's black and white thinking and inability to see their child's needs, want and desires as being different form their own. For these disordered parents there is no middle ground, you are either with them or against them. These parents love is very conditional and often forces a child to choose between the parents. The children, not having the capacity to fully understand their decision often choose the abusive/alienating parent. These kids will lie to please the abusive/alienating parent.
Some alienation tactics are mild and perpetrated out of ignorance and don't result in parental alienation syndrome. Some alienation tactics are very severe and effective in undermining the affections between the child and targeted parent. Not every child who endures alienation tactics is fully alienated from the target parent.
It's probably shocking to learn that there are parents, both mothers and fathers who purposely manipulating a child's reality. They lie, manipulate and revise history to gain control over their child(ren)'s affections. They are systematic in their approach, just like cults.
I would ask you if you believe that cults exist? Are the members brainwashed? Do former members require deprogramming to reenter society at large? Is a former cult member mentally stable when they leave or are forced out?
Parents who use parental alienation tactics are, in a sense, forming their own cult.
I am sure that you will not be swayed by what I wrote here. In any event, from one mother to another (I am making an assumption here), parental alienation is not a father issue nor a mother issue, it is a children's issue. There has to be some way to protect this kids from this.
June 15, 2010 - 8:47pmThis Comment
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