I think a week is far too short to get over the ending of a relationship in terms of grieving. Especially if you are an adult where the relationship was hopefully a deep and meaningful one. The ending of a relationship is similar to a death. I would say 2 months or so is within the realm of reason for depth of the soul grieving. Then comes hopefully understanding that while you may still miss and even yearn for that person for sometime after, this may not ever be possible again. In order to achieve healthy acceptance of this, therapy is not a bad idea. As for medication to help with the grief, I think that depends on the level of uncomfortableness and anxiety. After the end of my last relationship I found it necessary to take 1/2 but no more than 1 mg of Klonopin daily because the anxiety and discomfort was so intense esp.in the morning. It didn't cut it completely, but enough to function in my daily routine and calm my chest. As my grief period ended so did the meds. What I've come to realize is that while I have been dating and having interesting times with men since the breakup, because no one has yet taken the place of my ex in my heart yet, he is still taking up space in my brain and I miss him. But this also makes me realize that when and if I do find someone else whom I care about, the yearning for my ex will dissipate (but possibly never completely because of our very long history). Final thought.. DO NOT call or have contact under any circumstance while grieving. This will only lead to feeling worse. Remove his/her number from your cell phones, remove all items that remind you of him/her. Spread out your calls to friends for support so you don't overburden one or two friend. Get professional support and if you ever thought about taking up a particular hobby, this is a great time to start to keep busy. And cry.. it really does help.
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I think a week is far too short to get over the ending of a relationship in terms of grieving. Especially if you are an adult where the relationship was hopefully a deep and meaningful one. The ending of a relationship is similar to a death. I would say 2 months or so is within the realm of reason for depth of the soul grieving. Then comes hopefully understanding that while you may still miss and even yearn for that person for sometime after, this may not ever be possible again. In order to achieve healthy acceptance of this, therapy is not a bad idea. As for medication to help with the grief, I think that depends on the level of uncomfortableness and anxiety. After the end of my last relationship I found it necessary to take 1/2 but no more than 1 mg of Klonopin daily because the anxiety and discomfort was so intense esp.in the morning. It didn't cut it completely, but enough to function in my daily routine and calm my chest. As my grief period ended so did the meds. What I've come to realize is that while I have been dating and having interesting times with men since the breakup, because no one has yet taken the place of my ex in my heart yet, he is still taking up space in my brain and I miss him. But this also makes me realize that when and if I do find someone else whom I care about, the yearning for my ex will dissipate (but possibly never completely because of our very long history). Final thought.. DO NOT call or have contact under any circumstance while grieving. This will only lead to feeling worse. Remove his/her number from your cell phones, remove all items that remind you of him/her. Spread out your calls to friends for support so you don't overburden one or two friend. Get professional support and if you ever thought about taking up a particular hobby, this is a great time to start to keep busy. And cry.. it really does help.
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