Ah, thanks so much for clarifying. I can see now why the difference is important to you.
Here's what I would say: The answer to this question lies with you, Anon. It seems important to you, and therefore if I were you I would go ahead and tell the therapist, even if it seems a little uncomfortable to talk about it. When we are talking with a therapist, it's so important to be absolutely 100 percent honest, because that's the only way we'll get things out and dealt with.
In general, I think many people would say that there's a slight escalation of intent between making out and making out while lying down. It really depends on the intent of the two people involved. If the intent of the boy you were with was to push forward -- and you didn't want to -- then that's significant.
But it doesn't mean you did anything wrong, Anon. The fact that you are thinking about this carefully now tells me that it's important to you. So the next time you see the therapist, maybe you can say something like, "I was thinking more about what we talked about last time and I left a little bit out. Can we go over that again?"
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Anon,
Ah, thanks so much for clarifying. I can see now why the difference is important to you.
Here's what I would say: The answer to this question lies with you, Anon. It seems important to you, and therefore if I were you I would go ahead and tell the therapist, even if it seems a little uncomfortable to talk about it. When we are talking with a therapist, it's so important to be absolutely 100 percent honest, because that's the only way we'll get things out and dealt with.
In general, I think many people would say that there's a slight escalation of intent between making out and making out while lying down. It really depends on the intent of the two people involved. If the intent of the boy you were with was to push forward -- and you didn't want to -- then that's significant.
But it doesn't mean you did anything wrong, Anon. The fact that you are thinking about this carefully now tells me that it's important to you. So the next time you see the therapist, maybe you can say something like, "I was thinking more about what we talked about last time and I left a little bit out. Can we go over that again?"
Would that help?
June 18, 2010 - 9:38amThis Comment
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