wantstobeloved - You have shared a lot of different information and are obviously dealing with a lot of issues right now.
It's interesting that you mention losing your job and gaining weight and having relationship issues and wanting to lose weight and improve the relationship, but haven't said a lot about returning to work.
Job loss can be very traumatic for people, resulting in depression, changes in eating habits and changes in outlook....all of which can in turn impact one's self-esteem and relationships. Job loss - no matter what the cause - is one of the strongest stressors that people can go through, and in some cases leads to depression and suicide. When one or both parties in a couple are affected by job loss it's not unusual to find relationship issues as well.
Here are a couple of suggestions for you. We have a section of the site devoted to Healthy Eating with a lot of good articles and information. Adopting healthy eating patterns will help both you and your boyfriend feel better, and healthy eating also typically leads to healthier weight levels. A crash diet may help you lose weight but that's all it will do and it will be a temporary solution that will not necessarily help you feel better. You can find this at https://www.empowher.com/diet-nutrition/healthy-eating
Second, most communities have some type of free or low cost services to help unemployed people return to work. Getting involved in these activities and finding a job search support group will remove some of the isolation you may be feeling, help you get activity that's productive back into your life and demonstrate to your boyfriend and your self that you are willing to do your share in helping support your household.
If there is some legal reason why you are not looking for work right now then there is no reason not to be learning the skills needed and connections needed for a return to work when you are ready. The downturn in the economy has made this a very difficult time and job searches take longer than ever and more work than ever before. Being without a job right now, or trying to recover from losing a job right now, is extremely stressful.
Dealing with the issues related to losing your job head on may be difficult but it's what's needed in order to move forward and to build a solid partnership and good relationship.
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wantstobeloved - You have shared a lot of different information and are obviously dealing with a lot of issues right now.
It's interesting that you mention losing your job and gaining weight and having relationship issues and wanting to lose weight and improve the relationship, but haven't said a lot about returning to work.
Job loss can be very traumatic for people, resulting in depression, changes in eating habits and changes in outlook....all of which can in turn impact one's self-esteem and relationships. Job loss - no matter what the cause - is one of the strongest stressors that people can go through, and in some cases leads to depression and suicide. When one or both parties in a couple are affected by job loss it's not unusual to find relationship issues as well.
Here are a couple of suggestions for you. We have a section of the site devoted to Healthy Eating with a lot of good articles and information. Adopting healthy eating patterns will help both you and your boyfriend feel better, and healthy eating also typically leads to healthier weight levels. A crash diet may help you lose weight but that's all it will do and it will be a temporary solution that will not necessarily help you feel better. You can find this at https://www.empowher.com/diet-nutrition/healthy-eating
Second, most communities have some type of free or low cost services to help unemployed people return to work. Getting involved in these activities and finding a job search support group will remove some of the isolation you may be feeling, help you get activity that's productive back into your life and demonstrate to your boyfriend and your self that you are willing to do your share in helping support your household.
If there is some legal reason why you are not looking for work right now then there is no reason not to be learning the skills needed and connections needed for a return to work when you are ready. The downturn in the economy has made this a very difficult time and job searches take longer than ever and more work than ever before. Being without a job right now, or trying to recover from losing a job right now, is extremely stressful.
Dealing with the issues related to losing your job head on may be difficult but it's what's needed in order to move forward and to build a solid partnership and good relationship.
Good luck to you!
June 19, 2010 - 5:11pmThis Comment
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