I agree with Alison, and would like to add something. Part of what makes this so difficult is because there was so little communication between the two of you (you and the secret admirer guy). It may be that after he met the other girl and found out about the other guy who was interested in you and was better off, he felt like he had more possibilities with the other girl. We learn whether we like someone or don't like them by chatting and spending time with them. When it's hard to do that, it's hard to learn how we really feel about them.
What does your religion permit or not permit? May you not have in-person conversations with a man? Are you allowed to go on a date? Is it important to you to meet and possibly marry someone who is of the same religion?
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Anon,
I agree with Alison, and would like to add something. Part of what makes this so difficult is because there was so little communication between the two of you (you and the secret admirer guy). It may be that after he met the other girl and found out about the other guy who was interested in you and was better off, he felt like he had more possibilities with the other girl. We learn whether we like someone or don't like them by chatting and spending time with them. When it's hard to do that, it's hard to learn how we really feel about them.
What does your religion permit or not permit? May you not have in-person conversations with a man? Are you allowed to go on a date? Is it important to you to meet and possibly marry someone who is of the same religion?
June 22, 2010 - 8:50amThis Comment
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