I am so sorry this happened to you. But here's the deal -- I cannot BELIEVE that when you asked to urinate, he didn't immediately tell you where the restroom was! He's a gynecologist, he knows how things work down there, and when you asked to go, he should have let you go. End of story.
But he didn't, and it happened. So my next point is this: gynecologists deal with all kinds of bodily fluids all the time. Women have pelvic exams, sonograms and babies; they can inadvertently urinate in any of those situations. Doctors and nurses handle this all the time. He could have been much more graceful about it. All he had to do was say "I'm sorry I didn't trust what you said! Don't worry about it."
The fact that he was nonplussed about it enough to say that he "didn't believe you did that" makes me think he just didn't know what to say, and that's what popped out.
If you like this doctor, I would continue going to him. By the time it's time for your next exam, he will have done sonograms, delivered babies and probably have forgotten the whole thing anyway. If he hasn't, and he says something, just come back with a totally off-the-cuff comment like, "Hey, I TOLD you I had to go! Next time you'll believe me!" and chuckle afterward. (Even if it seems a little fake to you. It will get you past the moment.)
If you're not crazy about him, then maybe it's time to switch doctors. But don't do it just because you were embarrassed. In the scope of your world, this was huge, but in the scope of his world, it wasn't.
And I bet next time someone tells him they need to go to the bathroom, he'll listen!
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Anon,
I am so sorry this happened to you. But here's the deal -- I cannot BELIEVE that when you asked to urinate, he didn't immediately tell you where the restroom was! He's a gynecologist, he knows how things work down there, and when you asked to go, he should have let you go. End of story.
But he didn't, and it happened. So my next point is this: gynecologists deal with all kinds of bodily fluids all the time. Women have pelvic exams, sonograms and babies; they can inadvertently urinate in any of those situations. Doctors and nurses handle this all the time. He could have been much more graceful about it. All he had to do was say "I'm sorry I didn't trust what you said! Don't worry about it."
The fact that he was nonplussed about it enough to say that he "didn't believe you did that" makes me think he just didn't know what to say, and that's what popped out.
If you like this doctor, I would continue going to him. By the time it's time for your next exam, he will have done sonograms, delivered babies and probably have forgotten the whole thing anyway. If he hasn't, and he says something, just come back with a totally off-the-cuff comment like, "Hey, I TOLD you I had to go! Next time you'll believe me!" and chuckle afterward. (Even if it seems a little fake to you. It will get you past the moment.)
If you're not crazy about him, then maybe it's time to switch doctors. But don't do it just because you were embarrassed. In the scope of your world, this was huge, but in the scope of his world, it wasn't.
And I bet next time someone tells him they need to go to the bathroom, he'll listen!
June 24, 2010 - 9:51amThis Comment
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