Hi LEannek87,
Thanks so much for your post! And thanks for being a part of the Empowher Community. I agree with Alison and want to tell you this:
You sound very mature in that you recognize what's going on and are willing to take the tough road of doing things the right way. Kudos to you for that! It is a hard thing to admit that your current relationship isn't what you expected, and even harder to stick it out for the time being. I hope that your current experience has opened your eyes to the fact that even if things don't work out for the long haul with your current boyfriend that you will be ok. You will even flourish! You are being a good girlfriend to him in being honest and communicating with him about what you are feeling.
One suggestion...try and get your boyfriend to do something other than the video games or the computer. It sounds like he's in a bit of a rut being at home, and getting some new hobbies may help him to open up his world and gain some perspective. If he doesn't want to, don't feel bad about going out without him. You don't need to babysit just because he's in a rut--help him, but don't enable. Keep on keeping on for now if you're comfortable with it, but help him get counseling, and set a date in your head that if he doesn't seem to be making progress, and you are still not happy with the relationship, you may want to make the move to end it and work toward building a life without him. And stick to it--life's too short to waste precious time with the wrong guy, especially when you know there are other potential guys out there you would like to check out things with. Good luck and keep us up to date on how it's going. You are not alone...ever.
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Hi LEannek87,
July 2, 2010 - 9:17amThanks so much for your post! And thanks for being a part of the Empowher Community. I agree with Alison and want to tell you this:
You sound very mature in that you recognize what's going on and are willing to take the tough road of doing things the right way. Kudos to you for that! It is a hard thing to admit that your current relationship isn't what you expected, and even harder to stick it out for the time being. I hope that your current experience has opened your eyes to the fact that even if things don't work out for the long haul with your current boyfriend that you will be ok. You will even flourish! You are being a good girlfriend to him in being honest and communicating with him about what you are feeling.
One suggestion...try and get your boyfriend to do something other than the video games or the computer. It sounds like he's in a bit of a rut being at home, and getting some new hobbies may help him to open up his world and gain some perspective. If he doesn't want to, don't feel bad about going out without him. You don't need to babysit just because he's in a rut--help him, but don't enable. Keep on keeping on for now if you're comfortable with it, but help him get counseling, and set a date in your head that if he doesn't seem to be making progress, and you are still not happy with the relationship, you may want to make the move to end it and work toward building a life without him. And stick to it--life's too short to waste precious time with the wrong guy, especially when you know there are other potential guys out there you would like to check out things with. Good luck and keep us up to date on how it's going. You are not alone...ever.
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