I know it is hard to break up with someone, and yes---three years is a long time to be invested in someone, but three years is also not a lifetime!
You do need to go through a process of "letting go" of your relationship, and some of those stages are denial (he knows where to find me if he wants me), fear (feeling obliged to still be with him, even though he has made it clear he is no longer interested in the relationship), and then you can move onto to acceptance (dating other people, being OK with being without a partner and enjoying yourself more!). Feeling torn is a natural part of this process, and some ideas to make this breakup easier:
- Find support. Do you have friends or family you can talk with about your hurt feelings?
- Find joy. What do you LOVE to do? Have you been putting off trying a new hobby or interest because of the relationship? Now is a perfect time to try something new, or engage yourself in things you already love doing.
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I know it is hard to break up with someone, and yes---three years is a long time to be invested in someone, but three years is also not a lifetime!
You do need to go through a process of "letting go" of your relationship, and some of those stages are denial (he knows where to find me if he wants me), fear (feeling obliged to still be with him, even though he has made it clear he is no longer interested in the relationship), and then you can move onto to acceptance (dating other people, being OK with being without a partner and enjoying yourself more!). Feeling torn is a natural part of this process, and some ideas to make this breakup easier:
December 26, 2010 - 9:03am- Find support. Do you have friends or family you can talk with about your hurt feelings?
- Find joy. What do you LOVE to do? Have you been putting off trying a new hobby or interest because of the relationship? Now is a perfect time to try something new, or engage yourself in things you already love doing.
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