Hi Mena,
Thank you for coming back and updating us. I truly am sorry for your loss. A miscarriage is a miscarriage, and it's ok to not be ok right now. You may need to grieve for a bit, and that's to be expected. Have you explained to your partner what happened? It was a very early miscarriage. Just like a blog on the Mayo Clinic website explains, when you find out you were pregnant, we don't think of zygotes, embryos, or placentas, we think of what could have been--we think of babies. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I completely understand the pain of losing a pregnancy. You now are a part of a secret society of women who have had life in them and had to let it go. You would be surprised how many of us there are. I found that as I told people about my miscarriage, they virtually came out of the woodwork to tell me their own stories. There is a strange comfort in knowing you're not alone. I know statistics don't help, but know that there is hope. You may be able to experience pregnancy again, and I hope it goes smoother for you next time. Here's a couple articles that may interest you, or you may want to share with your partner:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/miscarriage/PR00164
Here's my miscarriage story: https://www.empowher.com/user/2186/dashboard/history?page=24
Here's a friend's miscarriage story:
https://www.empowher.com/community/share/missys-miscarriage-share-story
More articles on EmpowHER:
https://www.empowher.com/condition/miscarriage
It's a sick joke of nature--it's a take back, and I personally agree it's not fair. When you are ready, you and your partner can hopefully get back on track, and start "not trying" again. My own doctor explained to me that after a miscarriage, the uterus lining normally grows back all fluffy and ready for a new pregnancy--thinking of that helped me. I trust the emotional pain will diminish in time. In the meantime, don't be afraid to search out resources to help deal with your feelings you may be having and especially if you experience symptoms of depression. You may want to check out a group: www.EmpowHER.com/groups
Good luck, and take care of yourself. Please keep us posted on how you're doing, and let us know if you have any further questions.
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Hi Mena,
August 24, 2010 - 8:43amThank you for coming back and updating us. I truly am sorry for your loss. A miscarriage is a miscarriage, and it's ok to not be ok right now. You may need to grieve for a bit, and that's to be expected. Have you explained to your partner what happened? It was a very early miscarriage. Just like a blog on the Mayo Clinic website explains, when you find out you were pregnant, we don't think of zygotes, embryos, or placentas, we think of what could have been--we think of babies. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I completely understand the pain of losing a pregnancy. You now are a part of a secret society of women who have had life in them and had to let it go. You would be surprised how many of us there are. I found that as I told people about my miscarriage, they virtually came out of the woodwork to tell me their own stories. There is a strange comfort in knowing you're not alone. I know statistics don't help, but know that there is hope. You may be able to experience pregnancy again, and I hope it goes smoother for you next time. Here's a couple articles that may interest you, or you may want to share with your partner:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/miscarriage/PR00164
Here's my miscarriage story: https://www.empowher.com/user/2186/dashboard/history?page=24
Here's a friend's miscarriage story:
https://www.empowher.com/community/share/missys-miscarriage-share-story
More articles on EmpowHER:
https://www.empowher.com/condition/miscarriage
It's a sick joke of nature--it's a take back, and I personally agree it's not fair. When you are ready, you and your partner can hopefully get back on track, and start "not trying" again. My own doctor explained to me that after a miscarriage, the uterus lining normally grows back all fluffy and ready for a new pregnancy--thinking of that helped me. I trust the emotional pain will diminish in time. In the meantime, don't be afraid to search out resources to help deal with your feelings you may be having and especially if you experience symptoms of depression. You may want to check out a group: www.EmpowHER.com/groups
Good luck, and take care of yourself. Please keep us posted on how you're doing, and let us know if you have any further questions.
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