Hi all,
I would like to express my opinion as well without offending someone in particular.(&also to specify that I am not a native English language speaking and hope my message will be understood..I will do my best to be coherent as it is a stressful emotionally period for me ).I will appreciate any advice and opinion.
I have read the article and most of comments, trying to understand myself and the situation that I am in....as I am myself in a relationship with an AS man who does not admit or accept that he might have the As syndrome.
I meet my partner a few years ago and we become good friends, spending a lot of time chatting every almost every day..in 2015 I move with him and things started to get a bit over the top because everything has to be done in a certain way starting with cleaning and the way I was washing dishes and cutting broccoli...nothing that I was doing was right and it has to be done his way. He give me a hard time for more than 6 mounts until I did all he wanted the way he wanted and still continues ...long story short ...
I found out about his syndrome after after speaking with a mental health counsellor when things got a bit over the top because I was questioning him why he is doing certain things because wore affecting our relationship (he meet someone online and he spent 2 mounts hiding with his phone while he was chatting with his new friend that was a psychiatric medic ..he was even chatting while we wore having dinner together and trying to hide his phone ...thinking that he is not doing anything wrong ..sometimes at 2 am in the morning ;when he was refusing to speak with her she was offending me on fbk and that went way too far ....he was yelling at me that he is not doing anything wrong and he just can’t get rid of her ...and other offending words ...his phone is a vital part of his life, is with him at the toilet and in the bathroom ,never around and always changing the password => his obsession ). He is still chatting with her but find new methods to hide it from me...I don’t think he is genuine person as last year she said to him that she was diagnosed with cancer, her husband was beating her and now she has kidney failure ,1 kid but last year she was having 3 ..and telling him that I am a sociopath as I don’t care about her and don’t let him chat with her and he is very upset as he can’t support his friend in this difficult period – he never seen her in her life. How blind can you be in order not to see that all she says are lies? ... It was and still is a very painful period for me as I was feeling betrayed emotionally by the person that I believe was the most amazing man I ever meet. I will try to be short with the rest of the story ....it is annoying to see your partner spending his time with his obsessions especially if that is for other women that he never meet in his life and consider them his friends and keep thousands of sexy-porn pictures with naked muscular women ..I understood that as I consider it his private passion and admiring women from google is not that bad.
I am overwhelmed and in pain emotionally after only 2 years of living with him ....and gathering my straight to leave this relationship and start a new life. I would like to accept him and his obsessions as long those are constructive for him and our relationship ...but being obsessed with women that he never meet in his life and always trying to connect with other ones on fb ..is not that positive. It is more painful after I came from another continent to be with him and this year on Easter time I have been left alone at home while his excuse was that he s not celebrate Easter and I should be telling him that I want to do something for that day. Going out on V day was an issue as well...no friends at all. Not allowed to go out with my friends as he is making me feel guilty that I am not helping him with God knows what and not taking priorities seriously. I would like to say more about this subject but I don’t want to write a little book about it at the moment ).
He was very nice and loving and supporting with him and I really appreciate all he has done for me ...until I started to question his obsessive behaviors about hiding all the time and other online friends.
I love him and I have difficulties leaving the relationship. I am disappointed about me that I have accepted all this and giving so many chances to the relationship ...and disappointed with him and the situation... but all he wants is to make lots of money and be famous and have lots of fun...
Wish you all the best ...
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Hi all,
April 20, 2017 - 9:39pmI would like to express my opinion as well without offending someone in particular.(&also to specify that I am not a native English language speaking and hope my message will be understood..I will do my best to be coherent as it is a stressful emotionally period for me ).I will appreciate any advice and opinion.
I have read the article and most of comments, trying to understand myself and the situation that I am in....as I am myself in a relationship with an AS man who does not admit or accept that he might have the As syndrome.
I meet my partner a few years ago and we become good friends, spending a lot of time chatting every almost every day..in 2015 I move with him and things started to get a bit over the top because everything has to be done in a certain way starting with cleaning and the way I was washing dishes and cutting broccoli...nothing that I was doing was right and it has to be done his way. He give me a hard time for more than 6 mounts until I did all he wanted the way he wanted and still continues ...long story short ...
I found out about his syndrome after after speaking with a mental health counsellor when things got a bit over the top because I was questioning him why he is doing certain things because wore affecting our relationship (he meet someone online and he spent 2 mounts hiding with his phone while he was chatting with his new friend that was a psychiatric medic ..he was even chatting while we wore having dinner together and trying to hide his phone ...thinking that he is not doing anything wrong ..sometimes at 2 am in the morning ;when he was refusing to speak with her she was offending me on fbk and that went way too far ....he was yelling at me that he is not doing anything wrong and he just can’t get rid of her ...and other offending words ...his phone is a vital part of his life, is with him at the toilet and in the bathroom ,never around and always changing the password => his obsession ). He is still chatting with her but find new methods to hide it from me...I don’t think he is genuine person as last year she said to him that she was diagnosed with cancer, her husband was beating her and now she has kidney failure ,1 kid but last year she was having 3 ..and telling him that I am a sociopath as I don’t care about her and don’t let him chat with her and he is very upset as he can’t support his friend in this difficult period – he never seen her in her life. How blind can you be in order not to see that all she says are lies? ... It was and still is a very painful period for me as I was feeling betrayed emotionally by the person that I believe was the most amazing man I ever meet. I will try to be short with the rest of the story ....it is annoying to see your partner spending his time with his obsessions especially if that is for other women that he never meet in his life and consider them his friends and keep thousands of sexy-porn pictures with naked muscular women ..I understood that as I consider it his private passion and admiring women from google is not that bad.
I am overwhelmed and in pain emotionally after only 2 years of living with him ....and gathering my straight to leave this relationship and start a new life. I would like to accept him and his obsessions as long those are constructive for him and our relationship ...but being obsessed with women that he never meet in his life and always trying to connect with other ones on fb ..is not that positive. It is more painful after I came from another continent to be with him and this year on Easter time I have been left alone at home while his excuse was that he s not celebrate Easter and I should be telling him that I want to do something for that day. Going out on V day was an issue as well...no friends at all. Not allowed to go out with my friends as he is making me feel guilty that I am not helping him with God knows what and not taking priorities seriously. I would like to say more about this subject but I don’t want to write a little book about it at the moment ).
He was very nice and loving and supporting with him and I really appreciate all he has done for me ...until I started to question his obsessive behaviors about hiding all the time and other online friends.
I love him and I have difficulties leaving the relationship. I am disappointed about me that I have accepted all this and giving so many chances to the relationship ...and disappointed with him and the situation... but all he wants is to make lots of money and be famous and have lots of fun...
Wish you all the best ...
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