This article and reader comments has been so informative for me. I have been in an on/off relationship with a man (I suspect is Aspie) for 11 years. The behaviors he demonstrates are like several of the teenage students I have taught who have been diagnosed with the condition & our relationship has been so like some of the experience the long term partners have described in the preceding comments. Thank you for sharing this. For so long I thought there was something very, very wrong with me.
After some time apart from this man and after re-building my self esteem, I really do want him to get a diagnosis. How? I don't know how to encourage him to get a diagnosis as the crucial time of having children is looming and the issues associated with this have seemed to cause him some distress. He is 45 and he po-pooed the idea that he has Autism or Aspergers when I raised the issue several years ago and I fear I might be rocking the boat too much if I push the issue again. I totally understand the pain and isolation expressed by some of the women married to to older undiagnosed men.
I love this man and I feel the pain he feels. He has often said it is hard to be him. He says he doesn't understand why he does the things he does (that hurt me) and he is able to express how confusing he finds his 'emotions'. Despite the pain he has caused me and I'm now trying to find the strength to move my life forward.
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This article and reader comments has been so informative for me. I have been in an on/off relationship with a man (I suspect is Aspie) for 11 years. The behaviors he demonstrates are like several of the teenage students I have taught who have been diagnosed with the condition & our relationship has been so like some of the experience the long term partners have described in the preceding comments. Thank you for sharing this. For so long I thought there was something very, very wrong with me.
After some time apart from this man and after re-building my self esteem, I really do want him to get a diagnosis. How? I don't know how to encourage him to get a diagnosis as the crucial time of having children is looming and the issues associated with this have seemed to cause him some distress. He is 45 and he po-pooed the idea that he has Autism or Aspergers when I raised the issue several years ago and I fear I might be rocking the boat too much if I push the issue again. I totally understand the pain and isolation expressed by some of the women married to to older undiagnosed men.
I love this man and I feel the pain he feels. He has often said it is hard to be him. He says he doesn't understand why he does the things he does (that hurt me) and he is able to express how confusing he finds his 'emotions'. Despite the pain he has caused me and I'm now trying to find the strength to move my life forward.
July 25, 2011 - 5:09amThis Comment
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