My daughter has an aspi as a friend and they have tried to get together 3 times and crashed and burned. From what my daughter tells me, he loves to a great degree and is loyal but very afraid of rejection and has had a hard homelife. He told my daughter how much he likes being with her and seemed they seemed very happy together. He has had a constant female friend in his life for almost 2 years who was my daughters friend. She actually introduced them. She herself has personal issues and a personality disorder. She is very narcissistic and runs his life. He was once interested in her, she never interested in him but strings him along. She claims to be bi. They are together 24/7 when they are not in school and even go on trips together with his family. He attempted for the 3rd time to have a relationship with my daughter and actually asked her out and when she questioned him still being with this girl alone all the time, he wound up breaking up with my daughter and pretty quickly at that. The other girl and he wanted to keep the same relationship and have my daughter as a girlfriend and my daughter couldn’t understand it. The other girl sent my daughter a text basically writing her off and the guy told my daughter he didn’t want to have to choose between my daughter and his best friend, this other girl. My daughter is pretty sure this other girl was probably with him when he texted her that he was breaking up with her(after only 5 days). My daughter and him have since made up, but not dating. He does not see my daughter outside of school because the other girl is angry with my daughter and they are done as friends. If she’s not friends with my daughter, he doesn’t come around. My daughter apologized to her but to no avail. My daughter is destroyed. She is 17 of course and hopefully will get over this. I think he is done trying but it wouldn’t surprise me if he tried again and I don’t think my daughter can go through this again. Is this some behavior of an aspie. Really sad for my daughter and I saw him like a son. Really sad. Any advice is welcome. Thanks so much.
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Di October 4, 2011 at 9:02 pm
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My daughter has an aspi as a friend and they have tried to get together 3 times and crashed and burned. From what my daughter tells me, he loves to a great degree and is loyal but very afraid of rejection and has had a hard homelife. He told my daughter how much he likes being with her and seemed they seemed very happy together. He has had a constant female friend in his life for almost 2 years who was my daughters friend. She actually introduced them. She herself has personal issues and a personality disorder. She is very narcissistic and runs his life. He was once interested in her, she never interested in him but strings him along. She claims to be bi. They are together 24/7 when they are not in school and even go on trips together with his family. He attempted for the 3rd time to have a relationship with my daughter and actually asked her out and when she questioned him still being with this girl alone all the time, he wound up breaking up with my daughter and pretty quickly at that. The other girl and he wanted to keep the same relationship and have my daughter as a girlfriend and my daughter couldn’t understand it. The other girl sent my daughter a text basically writing her off and the guy told my daughter he didn’t want to have to choose between my daughter and his best friend, this other girl. My daughter is pretty sure this other girl was probably with him when he texted her that he was breaking up with her(after only 5 days). My daughter and him have since made up, but not dating. He does not see my daughter outside of school because the other girl is angry with my daughter and they are done as friends. If she’s not friends with my daughter, he doesn’t come around. My daughter apologized to her but to no avail. My daughter is destroyed. She is 17 of course and hopefully will get over this. I think he is done trying but it wouldn’t surprise me if he tried again and I don’t think my daughter can go through this again. Is this some behavior of an aspie. Really sad for my daughter and I saw him like a son. Really sad. Any advice is welcome. Thanks so much.
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