I am sorry that you are going through these things right now. One of the main things I want to point out to you is that, never listen to anyone when you are involved in a fight as we tend to say things out of sorts to HURT the other person and it appears from your explanation, there were a lot of hurtful things said to you and maybe you hurt his feelings also. Men love their egos.
Since you both live together, talk to him about the new website that he signed up on. Obviously, you both use the same computer and it will be easy for you to know that he was being sneaky about his intent. He may have been upset or looked at a pornography site that commercialized the swinger site but who knows if he will actually act upon it. I will assume this is the first time you noticed this.
Instead of causing another argument about this new site, try and talk to him about the issues you both had last night and resolve them. Be sure to let him know how attracted and sexually attracted you are to him and how interested you are in pleasing him. Try and talk about the things that will please him (since you have less experience) that you may do. Talk about fantasies, etc. There may be something that you can add to your relationship so he doesn't feel as if he always initiates things.
Communication, without fighting and arguments, will be beneficial in this situation. Don't find yourself completely upset just yet about the swingers site....he may have been curious but will not act upon it. I know this will be very hard right now but if you see a pattern, then bring it up.
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Hi Cloff,
I am sorry that you are going through these things right now. One of the main things I want to point out to you is that, never listen to anyone when you are involved in a fight as we tend to say things out of sorts to HURT the other person and it appears from your explanation, there were a lot of hurtful things said to you and maybe you hurt his feelings also. Men love their egos.
Since you both live together, talk to him about the new website that he signed up on. Obviously, you both use the same computer and it will be easy for you to know that he was being sneaky about his intent. He may have been upset or looked at a pornography site that commercialized the swinger site but who knows if he will actually act upon it. I will assume this is the first time you noticed this.
Instead of causing another argument about this new site, try and talk to him about the issues you both had last night and resolve them. Be sure to let him know how attracted and sexually attracted you are to him and how interested you are in pleasing him. Try and talk about the things that will please him (since you have less experience) that you may do. Talk about fantasies, etc. There may be something that you can add to your relationship so he doesn't feel as if he always initiates things.
Communication, without fighting and arguments, will be beneficial in this situation. Don't find yourself completely upset just yet about the swingers site....he may have been curious but will not act upon it. I know this will be very hard right now but if you see a pattern, then bring it up.
Does this help?
July 24, 2010 - 8:59amThis Comment
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