Your words, "When I ask him about it he assures me that it's not me, it's him, and he doesn't know why. He doesn't seem troubled by it" speak volumes. It is OK if he is not troubled by this issue, but he SHOULD be troubled by is YOU having this concern. Regardless of the issue (sex, finances, communication, kids), if one partner is concerned about an on-going issue, it is the responsibility of both people in the relationship to find a solution, or to work on the issue together.
You mentioned he is embarrassed by this, and it leads me to believe that he is having physical problems...is this true? If so, we can send you some information about how common it is for men to have erectile problems, or any number of issues, and most of them are easily treatable. No need to be embarrassed!
I am interested to hear more: are there other areas in the relationship that are troubling as well? Is this a physical problem for him, or is he "not in the mood" as you say? Is he usually concerned about your feelings?
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Hi crisiskris,
Your words, "When I ask him about it he assures me that it's not me, it's him, and he doesn't know why. He doesn't seem troubled by it" speak volumes. It is OK if he is not troubled by this issue, but he SHOULD be troubled by is YOU having this concern. Regardless of the issue (sex, finances, communication, kids), if one partner is concerned about an on-going issue, it is the responsibility of both people in the relationship to find a solution, or to work on the issue together.
You mentioned he is embarrassed by this, and it leads me to believe that he is having physical problems...is this true? If so, we can send you some information about how common it is for men to have erectile problems, or any number of issues, and most of them are easily treatable. No need to be embarrassed!
I am interested to hear more: are there other areas in the relationship that are troubling as well? Is this a physical problem for him, or is he "not in the mood" as you say? Is he usually concerned about your feelings?
July 29, 2010 - 1:34pmThis Comment
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