You may not be sexually compatible, if this has always been what your relationship entails.
Since you know this is how your boyfriend is sexually (sex infrequently, "crazy porn style" sex when it does occur), is this what you want in a relationship? Just be honest with yourself, and be aware of what is going on in the relationship. You might be fine with this for now, you might change your mind later.
It does strike me as odd, and it has nothing to do with a man being more "experienced" (my husband is 11 years older than I am). Certain people enjoy sex in certain ways, but what is MOST important is that you BOTH have an EQUAL say in what type of sex you have. If sex is always "porn-like", and you would like it to be more romantic, slow, intimate, then say something. Expect more out of your relationship. If your boyfriend needs extreme measures to be turned on, you might need to talk with him about your concern. His response will be very telling (if he blows you off, doesn't respond, does not care), then this might not be the relationship you are looking for; it is not a healthy relationship if both people are unable to communicate openly and honestly about their sexual preferences and overall concerns.
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You may not be sexually compatible, if this has always been what your relationship entails.
Since you know this is how your boyfriend is sexually (sex infrequently, "crazy porn style" sex when it does occur), is this what you want in a relationship? Just be honest with yourself, and be aware of what is going on in the relationship. You might be fine with this for now, you might change your mind later.
It does strike me as odd, and it has nothing to do with a man being more "experienced" (my husband is 11 years older than I am). Certain people enjoy sex in certain ways, but what is MOST important is that you BOTH have an EQUAL say in what type of sex you have. If sex is always "porn-like", and you would like it to be more romantic, slow, intimate, then say something. Expect more out of your relationship. If your boyfriend needs extreme measures to be turned on, you might need to talk with him about your concern. His response will be very telling (if he blows you off, doesn't respond, does not care), then this might not be the relationship you are looking for; it is not a healthy relationship if both people are unable to communicate openly and honestly about their sexual preferences and overall concerns.
Good luck!
August 24, 2010 - 7:40pmThis Comment
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