I was reading your question and thought it was reasonable for your boyfriend to take this trip back to visit Japan, and even taking it without you seemed okay if there were monetary reasons or he just wanted to go alone. But then I got to the part about refusing to friend you on Facebook. Not cool.
This is a good time to decide how invested you are in this relationship. He clearly either has something to hide or wants to keep you at a distance, and neither of those bode well for your relationship. If you want to talk when he returns, you can do that, but I'm not sure what excuse for cutting you out of communication completely will be good enough.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Evaluate whether you really want a relationship with someone who treats you this way, and then go with your gut.
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Hi St24
I was reading your question and thought it was reasonable for your boyfriend to take this trip back to visit Japan, and even taking it without you seemed okay if there were monetary reasons or he just wanted to go alone. But then I got to the part about refusing to friend you on Facebook. Not cool.
This is a good time to decide how invested you are in this relationship. He clearly either has something to hide or wants to keep you at a distance, and neither of those bode well for your relationship. If you want to talk when he returns, you can do that, but I'm not sure what excuse for cutting you out of communication completely will be good enough.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Evaluate whether you really want a relationship with someone who treats you this way, and then go with your gut.
Good luck and thanks for writing.
September 7, 2010 - 6:54amThis Comment
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