Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for your comment, and for finding EmpowHER. I'm glad seeing you are not the only one dealing with this type of situation helps you put things into perspective. It seems to me (granted I don't know you and your partner), that since moving in together your boyfriend has lost that "spark" he had. Are you currently working, or in school? What's the situation of moving in together? Did you move to a different state from your family? How far are you from friends and family now?
In regard to the sex, the best thing you can do is try to not worry about it, and just be the best partner you can be. Do what you love to do alone and also when you are together. Try and not focus on the sex so much so you can work on just being your own person in the confines of being together. It is completely natural for couples to experience this tapering off of sex when they take things to the next level (moving in). Partly it may be because there isn't that distance of having separate lives between you, and removing it can make things a bit unsettled for a while. It can be scary for you and him. If you have to talk, maybe if you can talk about that instead of the sex, it may help to voice some of those concerns? You may find that could be a reason for his current sexual dysfunction. What do you think?
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Hi Anonymous,
November 22, 2010 - 9:33amThanks for your comment, and for finding EmpowHER. I'm glad seeing you are not the only one dealing with this type of situation helps you put things into perspective. It seems to me (granted I don't know you and your partner), that since moving in together your boyfriend has lost that "spark" he had. Are you currently working, or in school? What's the situation of moving in together? Did you move to a different state from your family? How far are you from friends and family now?
In regard to the sex, the best thing you can do is try to not worry about it, and just be the best partner you can be. Do what you love to do alone and also when you are together. Try and not focus on the sex so much so you can work on just being your own person in the confines of being together. It is completely natural for couples to experience this tapering off of sex when they take things to the next level (moving in). Partly it may be because there isn't that distance of having separate lives between you, and removing it can make things a bit unsettled for a while. It can be scary for you and him. If you have to talk, maybe if you can talk about that instead of the sex, it may help to voice some of those concerns? You may find that could be a reason for his current sexual dysfunction. What do you think?
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