I know EXACTLY what you mean. I have the same problem. Me and my biyfriend have been together for 15 months now and lived together for 8 months. Before he moved in with me, we used to have sex pretty much every night as we stayed 3 days at the house he was sharing with his friend and 4 days at my place. If I ever said I wasn't feeling like having sex, he used to panic and worry if there was something wrong.
Ever since we moved in together, our sex life has gone down hill. We now have sex once or twice a month, maximum. Even then, it's something quick and 'straight to the point'. It drives me insane. I've tried raising this problem but it only seems to cause arguments.
My boyfriend had some health problems within last 10 months and is under stress due to his work situation and every time I comment on our lack of sex he takes the victim's position and blames his health (which is legitimate, but for how ever long??) and stress. Now I know he is not cheating on me and I know he loves me a lot, but sex is very important to me and I can't understand how in the last 8 months his health and stress have changed his libido so much. However, like I said if I mention this, he says he is scared to lose me because he knows he can't give me as much fun as I want. Although it has never been a problem before he moved in?!
It honestly drives me insane and I'm getting to the point where I wonder if it's ever gonna get better, if it's worth it and I'm not even sure I am still physically attracted to my boyfriend because of all the excuses...
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Hi,
I know EXACTLY what you mean. I have the same problem. Me and my biyfriend have been together for 15 months now and lived together for 8 months. Before he moved in with me, we used to have sex pretty much every night as we stayed 3 days at the house he was sharing with his friend and 4 days at my place. If I ever said I wasn't feeling like having sex, he used to panic and worry if there was something wrong.
Ever since we moved in together, our sex life has gone down hill. We now have sex once or twice a month, maximum. Even then, it's something quick and 'straight to the point'. It drives me insane. I've tried raising this problem but it only seems to cause arguments.
My boyfriend had some health problems within last 10 months and is under stress due to his work situation and every time I comment on our lack of sex he takes the victim's position and blames his health (which is legitimate, but for how ever long??) and stress. Now I know he is not cheating on me and I know he loves me a lot, but sex is very important to me and I can't understand how in the last 8 months his health and stress have changed his libido so much. However, like I said if I mention this, he says he is scared to lose me because he knows he can't give me as much fun as I want. Although it has never been a problem before he moved in?!
It honestly drives me insane and I'm getting to the point where I wonder if it's ever gonna get better, if it's worth it and I'm not even sure I am still physically attracted to my boyfriend because of all the excuses...
November 24, 2010 - 3:50pmThis Comment
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