I used to do the same thing when I was younger. Sometimes when we really do like someone we dont know how to have a functional / and healthy relationship. Most of the time this comes from relationships we have had in our past ...it could have been a relationship with a parent, or an ex. Just know this if you are trying to upset the relationship and make him cry or breakup with him to get a reaction out of him (such as him chasing you) then you are causing unnessessary stress on you, him, and the relationship itself. Whats the pay off...you get attention. But its negative. Don't you want attention but in a positive way. If you want him to show you he cares....dont hurt him.....be kind to him, say nice things, love him. Try starting over today and begin a healthy relationship. Catch yourself when you feel yourself starting to make drama. Tell yourself.....ok here i go again...things must be to normal and healthy and so im going to cause drama. Then stop and redirect yourself. The only way to change this habit is to practice the opposite. Just like you are used to drama....you will get used to a healthy realtionship in time. Remember you and he both deserve to be loved and treated kindly. Maybe someone didnt treat you kindly before and so you are used to the drama. You might feel comfortable in it because it is farmilar. But you deserve better. Start making changes....and I suggest you talk to this man if you love him. Tell him you discovered this about yourself and you are going to make changes starting today. Then ask him for his help. If he loves you he will be glad to hear you have recognized your problem and that you are going to work on it. He will probably help you. Like he could say hey honey here you go again causeing drama to get a reaction....instead of breaking up with me to know I love you and will chase you ....how about I just tell you I love you now. One more thing....good for you for seeking out answers and for admiting you have a issue. thats the first step in changing and becoming a better person and girlfriend. Lots of love and good luck.
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I used to do the same thing when I was younger. Sometimes when we really do like someone we dont know how to have a functional / and healthy relationship. Most of the time this comes from relationships we have had in our past ...it could have been a relationship with a parent, or an ex. Just know this if you are trying to upset the relationship and make him cry or breakup with him to get a reaction out of him (such as him chasing you) then you are causing unnessessary stress on you, him, and the relationship itself. Whats the pay off...you get attention. But its negative. Don't you want attention but in a positive way. If you want him to show you he cares....dont hurt him.....be kind to him, say nice things, love him. Try starting over today and begin a healthy relationship. Catch yourself when you feel yourself starting to make drama. Tell yourself.....ok here i go again...things must be to normal and healthy and so im going to cause drama. Then stop and redirect yourself. The only way to change this habit is to practice the opposite. Just like you are used to drama....you will get used to a healthy realtionship in time. Remember you and he both deserve to be loved and treated kindly. Maybe someone didnt treat you kindly before and so you are used to the drama. You might feel comfortable in it because it is farmilar. But you deserve better. Start making changes....and I suggest you talk to this man if you love him. Tell him you discovered this about yourself and you are going to make changes starting today. Then ask him for his help. If he loves you he will be glad to hear you have recognized your problem and that you are going to work on it. He will probably help you. Like he could say hey honey here you go again causeing drama to get a reaction....instead of breaking up with me to know I love you and will chase you ....how about I just tell you I love you now. One more thing....good for you for seeking out answers and for admiting you have a issue. thats the first step in changing and becoming a better person and girlfriend. Lots of love and good luck.
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