Thank you for the clarification. From an outsider looking in, it appears that they do not contact each other and the infidelity happened once and didn't happen again. The more your boyfriend and you had a relationship, there appears to be no contact besides friendly. Yes, it is certainly hard when the three people involved here are friends (or were friends).
As long as there is a clear distinction about how you feel towards this girl and your boyfriend is in agreement that they will not associate with each other, I think you should be fine in the sense of your relationship. People do make mistakes sometimes and it is okay to forgive them.
It will certainly hurt because you feel betrayed by both your boyfriend and the so-called friend. It is completely fine to feel the way you do. You cannot, however, force someone to never see each other or run into each other again. Just remember that he chose you to be with and not her and it appears that he agrees that the separation of the two of them is beneficial to YOUR relationship.
It is okay to be upset but don't let this ruin your relationship. It was a long time ago that it happened, it is just new to you since you found out recently. Keep us posted and good luck.
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Hi Mayrita,
Thank you for the clarification. From an outsider looking in, it appears that they do not contact each other and the infidelity happened once and didn't happen again. The more your boyfriend and you had a relationship, there appears to be no contact besides friendly. Yes, it is certainly hard when the three people involved here are friends (or were friends).
As long as there is a clear distinction about how you feel towards this girl and your boyfriend is in agreement that they will not associate with each other, I think you should be fine in the sense of your relationship. People do make mistakes sometimes and it is okay to forgive them.
It will certainly hurt because you feel betrayed by both your boyfriend and the so-called friend. It is completely fine to feel the way you do. You cannot, however, force someone to never see each other or run into each other again. Just remember that he chose you to be with and not her and it appears that he agrees that the separation of the two of them is beneficial to YOUR relationship.
It is okay to be upset but don't let this ruin your relationship. It was a long time ago that it happened, it is just new to you since you found out recently. Keep us posted and good luck.
Missie
November 6, 2010 - 5:52amThis Comment
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