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Hi Marilyn - No, you don't sound like an egomaniac. You sound like a caring human being who lives in a society that does not openly discuss serious medical illness or death. It is a very lonely place to be, and it's sad to me that we live in a country that puts so much focus on youth that the needs and lives of people past the "marketable" age are pretty much ignored. They're hard to find but if you can locate a caregiver's group it might be helpful. I'm thinking you're already going through a grieving process as the sister you knew pre-diagnosis is gone forever and won't return.
What right do you have to speak? Well, I don't now your full situation but I can tell you that my good friend whose husband has terminal cancer is in pain because friends and family stopped speaking, calling, emailing, etc and just ignore him and her. She would much rather know that people care and are there for them. I know it's hard but I suggest a heart to heart with others, who may also be feeling just like you and not knowing what to do and wishing for heart to heart talks too. And, as always, be sure to take care of you as you can't be helpful to others if your own health has been compromised. Stay in touch! Pat
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Hi Marilyn - No, you don't sound like an egomaniac. You sound like a caring human being who lives in a society that does not openly discuss serious medical illness or death. It is a very lonely place to be, and it's sad to me that we live in a country that puts so much focus on youth that the needs and lives of people past the "marketable" age are pretty much ignored. They're hard to find but if you can locate a caregiver's group it might be helpful. I'm thinking you're already going through a grieving process as the sister you knew pre-diagnosis is gone forever and won't return.
What right do you have to speak? Well, I don't now your full situation but I can tell you that my good friend whose husband has terminal cancer is in pain because friends and family stopped speaking, calling, emailing, etc and just ignore him and her. She would much rather know that people care and are there for them. I know it's hard but I suggest a heart to heart with others, who may also be feeling just like you and not knowing what to do and wishing for heart to heart talks too. And, as always, be sure to take care of you as you can't be helpful to others if your own health has been compromised. Stay in touch! Pat
November 17, 2010 - 9:15amThis Comment
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