No, there is nothing wrong with you. I have found the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" helpful for women who wonder what they should do to change/fix the relationship. It is written in a humorous style, but is perfectly serious information. Women are constantly trying to change themselves to make their guy like them or want to have sex with them, and it's ridiculous, honestly! If the relationship does not work with you being YOU, then it is not the right relationship.
There are all kinds of relationships. Some couples have sex once per week, other more or less. What makes for a happy, healthy and successful relationship is that the quality and quantity of sex be satisfactory to both individuals, most of the time (there will be "off" weeks, of course). The other ingredient is that both people can communicate about their feelings, needs, wants and desires, and find a compromise that suits both people. No excuses, guilt, threats, victim-playing...just real honest discussion and thoughtful solutions.
If you want to have sex once/week, and he only wants sex once every-other-week, then how can you two communicate and compromise? Is he interested in meeting your needs, and are you interested in meeting his? Are there other things you two can do to fulfill your need for physical intimacy?
His reasoning for not wanting to get sick of you is very strange, but he is right that people in relationships don't need to have sex "all the time"...there are other fun things to do to build intimacy (emotionally, mentally, physically, etc). If you enjoy him most of the time, he fulfills your emotional needs (you aren't "needing" to have sex with him to prove that he loves you, for instance), then you can talk with him about some other ideas you have to be physically intimate.
Does he have a history of getting "sick" of women if he has sex too much with them? That is probably what you are most concerned with, right?
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No, there is nothing wrong with you. I have found the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" helpful for women who wonder what they should do to change/fix the relationship. It is written in a humorous style, but is perfectly serious information. Women are constantly trying to change themselves to make their guy like them or want to have sex with them, and it's ridiculous, honestly! If the relationship does not work with you being YOU, then it is not the right relationship.
There are all kinds of relationships. Some couples have sex once per week, other more or less. What makes for a happy, healthy and successful relationship is that the quality and quantity of sex be satisfactory to both individuals, most of the time (there will be "off" weeks, of course). The other ingredient is that both people can communicate about their feelings, needs, wants and desires, and find a compromise that suits both people. No excuses, guilt, threats, victim-playing...just real honest discussion and thoughtful solutions.
If you want to have sex once/week, and he only wants sex once every-other-week, then how can you two communicate and compromise? Is he interested in meeting your needs, and are you interested in meeting his? Are there other things you two can do to fulfill your need for physical intimacy?
His reasoning for not wanting to get sick of you is very strange, but he is right that people in relationships don't need to have sex "all the time"...there are other fun things to do to build intimacy (emotionally, mentally, physically, etc). If you enjoy him most of the time, he fulfills your emotional needs (you aren't "needing" to have sex with him to prove that he loves you, for instance), then you can talk with him about some other ideas you have to be physically intimate.
Does he have a history of getting "sick" of women if he has sex too much with them? That is probably what you are most concerned with, right?
You can read the responses to this same question here: https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-want-have-sex-me-anymore
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