hi,
Just wanted to give and update. I've talked A LOT during the past couple days and we both decided to take a break to think about just ourselves for now.
I was the one who suggested it and Ii actually feel pretty good about this situation. My boyfriend kept saying how much he loved me but he wishes that he could become something that he is proud of before he can focus on a relationship. We're going to be friends for now and stay this way until one of us is going to officially call it off.
I truly believe that neither one of us wants to break up and that we both are still in love, but this is a time that we are going to use to grow up and become something that is independent from the other.
We wont be seeing other people and if one of us decide to start dating again, we'll have to 'break up' before that can happen.
Alison, thank you so much for your advise. It's true, I could see the red flags too. I'm sure it is not because he doesnt love me and wants to actually focus on his career. But you are right, we should not be together at this time. It's possible that this is going to lead to a break up but I would like to think for now that we may have a chance to be together again.
I actually feel suprising like good about this. It's like everything will be ok and then it'll work out for the best. There is no denying that I am still sad that I dont get to see him all the time, or that I wish everything was perfect and we would just get married. But that's not realistic, and having time apart from each other could potentially be the thing that makes us stronger than ever!
I'll be back to keep everyone updated! thank you so much, it was nice to just know that someone actually read this.
Anonymous, I know it is hard right now. But you will pretty much wake up one day and know that for you to be happy, you have to do something about it. I'm not really sure why you two have been in an on and off relationship in the past year, but just think about why/how you two get back together, is he the one who calls the break up? It was really hard for me to realize this, but i now know that if i am not happy now and dont take action (whether it is to break up, a break or to try and work harder with my boyfriend), I wont be any happier in 15 or 20 years. Good luck, be strong and we're all here to listen if you need us to
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hi,
Just wanted to give and update. I've talked A LOT during the past couple days and we both decided to take a break to think about just ourselves for now.
I was the one who suggested it and Ii actually feel pretty good about this situation. My boyfriend kept saying how much he loved me but he wishes that he could become something that he is proud of before he can focus on a relationship. We're going to be friends for now and stay this way until one of us is going to officially call it off.
I truly believe that neither one of us wants to break up and that we both are still in love, but this is a time that we are going to use to grow up and become something that is independent from the other.
We wont be seeing other people and if one of us decide to start dating again, we'll have to 'break up' before that can happen.
Alison, thank you so much for your advise. It's true, I could see the red flags too. I'm sure it is not because he doesnt love me and wants to actually focus on his career. But you are right, we should not be together at this time. It's possible that this is going to lead to a break up but I would like to think for now that we may have a chance to be together again.
I actually feel suprising like good about this. It's like everything will be ok and then it'll work out for the best. There is no denying that I am still sad that I dont get to see him all the time, or that I wish everything was perfect and we would just get married. But that's not realistic, and having time apart from each other could potentially be the thing that makes us stronger than ever!
I'll be back to keep everyone updated! thank you so much, it was nice to just know that someone actually read this.
Anonymous, I know it is hard right now. But you will pretty much wake up one day and know that for you to be happy, you have to do something about it. I'm not really sure why you two have been in an on and off relationship in the past year, but just think about why/how you two get back together, is he the one who calls the break up? It was really hard for me to realize this, but i now know that if i am not happy now and dont take action (whether it is to break up, a break or to try and work harder with my boyfriend), I wont be any happier in 15 or 20 years. Good luck, be strong and we're all here to listen if you need us to
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