My husband always has some naked ladies on his computer, either saved in files or in email. He has even hidden them in files under less suspecious names so I won't find them. When I find them, it is always the same story, he didn't know they were there. When I pull them up and show him, he flies into a rage; I don't trust him, or I don't beliefe him that he didn't know they were there. It always comes back that I am hurt and sad because it's my fault, not his, "if I didn't snoop, I wouldn't be hurt." That was a final straw for me. Then he tells me, if I can't trust him then we have no relationship. How do I trust a man that has this stuff there off and continually, yet swears he doesnt know?
We've been married about nineteen years and I cannot have sex with him any longer. Just the thought of him viewing naked women and then using me to get satisfied just makes me physically sick.
I have always wanted lovemaking in our relationship but for him it's always been sex, always wants oral sex then intercourse. No kissing or holding, just porn type sex and its over. He also uses porn language with me during our sex and it is such a turn off I cannot take it anymore.
I love him with all of my heart and I seriously think I could take physical abuse over his sick addiction to naked women.
I know there are those who think men will be men, but when a wife tells her husband that he is hurting her and that she is seriously considering getting a divorce and he still won't quit? That tells me that he cannot give up it up or it is more important to him than losign me. I'm going to file for a divorce.
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My husband always has some naked ladies on his computer, either saved in files or in email. He has even hidden them in files under less suspecious names so I won't find them. When I find them, it is always the same story, he didn't know they were there. When I pull them up and show him, he flies into a rage; I don't trust him, or I don't beliefe him that he didn't know they were there. It always comes back that I am hurt and sad because it's my fault, not his, "if I didn't snoop, I wouldn't be hurt." That was a final straw for me. Then he tells me, if I can't trust him then we have no relationship. How do I trust a man that has this stuff there off and continually, yet swears he doesnt know?
We've been married about nineteen years and I cannot have sex with him any longer. Just the thought of him viewing naked women and then using me to get satisfied just makes me physically sick.
I have always wanted lovemaking in our relationship but for him it's always been sex, always wants oral sex then intercourse. No kissing or holding, just porn type sex and its over. He also uses porn language with me during our sex and it is such a turn off I cannot take it anymore.
I love him with all of my heart and I seriously think I could take physical abuse over his sick addiction to naked women.
I know there are those who think men will be men, but when a wife tells her husband that he is hurting her and that she is seriously considering getting a divorce and he still won't quit? That tells me that he cannot give up it up or it is more important to him than losign me. I'm going to file for a divorce.
December 10, 2010 - 11:38amSleepless in Seattle
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